The Modern Mr. and Mrs. LLC
Nationally Certified Relationship & Recovery Coaching
CEO of The Mod:
Savannah Esposito, B.A. in Forensic Psychology
Nationally Certified Life, Recovery, and Relationship Coach
Specializing in Sexual Stimulation Addiction -Masturbation, Pornography, and/or Sex Addiction (SSA™) and Betrayal Trauma
At The Mod, we help married couples who on the outside may seem to have the perfect family and work life, but on the inside secretly struggle with porn & sex addiction and betrayal trauma.
Together, we work to end these destructive cycles and reconstruct your family & marriage for a healthy, addiction free lifestyle.
At The Mod you will find that Chloe, Cliff, Jak and I are here for you. We are all successful in our recoveries from SSA™ & BT but our focus is on your healing, not you watching us heal.
We are here to help you recover so you can be where we are (which is living a successful recovery lifestyle with a saved marriage!).
50-60% of Divorces cite Excessive Porn as the reason for divorce.
Only 5% of SSA’s hit 5 years clean and beyond.
That’s a high divorce rate from porn and a low success rate for recovery!
That needs to change & that’s why we are here.
Chloe’s husband, Cliff, is over 7 years clean. My husband, Jak, is over 4 years clean.
Not many addicts make it as far as 2, 3, 4, and 5+ years.
But we know how to do it.
We know how to get you there, and we know how to get the betrayed through their trauma.
Not only that, but we know how to reconstruct a new healthy relationship.
We’ve been there and succeeded.
Chloe and I don’t have successful marriages by chance.
We both worked a very similar approach to recovery and witnessed other addicts follow our approach and saw success.
Chloe, Cliff, Jak and I have been in the trenches, and through years of hard work, of trial and error, of pain, of effort, of commitment, we found the way out.
We are here to help pull you out too.
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Good News, You’re in the Right Place to Overcome Your Addiction & Trauma and Save Your Marriage!
That’s right, we are here to help you get recovery under your belt, and your life and marriage back on track!
– Need help with triggers and urges? We got you!
– Need help with boundaries and consequences? We got you!
– Need help with communicating? We got you!
– Need help with creating and keeping intimacy? We got you!
– Need help with improving your sex life? Oh hell yeah, we got you!
And how do we do this?
From knowledge, education, and experience.
We have been where you are – stuck in shame, feeling unloved, being disconnected, feeling alone, unheard and unimportant. But it doesn’t have to be that way!
Why Choose to Work With Us at The Mod?
What sets us apart from therapists, 12-step groups, other coaching out there is our holistic approach to recovery.
We know that you can’t get sober and be in recovery without addressing all aspects of your life. We also know that there are three recoveries here that need to be addressed and we address them all.
We haven’t just studied it and coached it, we’ve experienced it and come out the other side successful!
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“I was so excited entering SSR. I was ready to make the next step in my recovery. Through SSR it has made me feel so good to actually see the true me, the one I haven’t seen in a long time. The biggest impact SSR has had on me is that it feels like a second chance at life. I was on the verge of destroying my marriage, which is the greatest thing I have ever had.
The most valuable part of SSR is the open communication that slack messages offers as well as the information from the monthly calls.
SSR has changed many things for me, but the main things are that I have emotions for the first time and actually know how I feel during these emotions. Me and my wife’s communication is outstanding. I actually feel no fear in telling her how I feel and she doesn’t either. We tell each other everything now – the good and the bad. I’m also so much calmer and willing to listen without giving my opinion.
I am currently working towards 90 day celibacy, to show my wife that she is important and matters and that she is loved by me, as weel as working on having complete control of my thoughts while in public.
The coaches at The Mod are straight to the point with their knowledge and what they think. If you’re thinking about joining SSR, you have nothing to lose by trying! SSR has all the tools to give you a sober life if you choose to join. It will save everything you love if you put in the work.
Thank you to the coaches and others in SSR to get me to where I am today. I am looking forward to moving to the next level of recovery in Become a Knight group program!”
“Before joining The Betrayed’s Haven I felt lost and alone. Since finding this group I am more informed and stronger. The biggest impact has been being able to talk to other betrayed spouses that can relate and has helped tremendously. I love all the articles and tools the coaches provide. I appreciate that they call everything what it is and allow the freedom to speak freely and openly. In my SANON group we have to use different lingo for certain things to not trigger people (which I get) like, “acting out” instead of masturbating. I love that there’s no judgement on here and if people feel like using curse words to explain how they feel, the coaches allow it.
I feel stronger about being able to call out and recognize when my husband is gaslighting me, I’ve gained more self-confidence, and I don’t feel alone anymore. I love that Savannah and Chloe come at this from experienced betrayed partners and can offer wisdom on how to navigate this disease. I especially appreciate that you all don’t sugar coat anything.
If you’re thinking of joining, this group gives you an outlet when you might not have anyone else to talk to. Being able to reach out at 10 or 11 at night and talking to someone is a great release. Even if no one responds, it’s almost like journaling. I just have to say thank you to the coaches for starting this group! Having an outlet to speak freely and openly has helped me tremendously, especially when I can’t call a friend or reach out to my therapist for guidance!”
“Before joining The Betrayed’s Haven FB Group, it was just after D-Day and the ensuing discussion with hubby, so completely devastated in every aspect of my life. I thought everything I had lived was an utter lie and wasn’t sure I could even stay married. At the moment, we are actively working recovery. We have a new vision in mind for our marriage, relationship, and lives. This group has gotten me going in the right direction. I couldn’t imagine living with the pain I had, indefinitely.
The most valuable part of The Betrayed’s Haven is the coaches. The areas of expertise/specialty and the way they each go about responding to members is so valuable. I feel like my husband and I are finally able to start digging into the true problem we’ve been experiencing all our relationship. I also feel like maybe I could move in the direction of truly loving myself instead of putting on a face. I feel like this has been an opportunity to discover the true beauty in life, still more work to do, but we have so much gratitude for everything.
If you’re thinking about joining the free Facebook group, if you’re committed to healing, why not try the group. These coaches have helped point us in the right direction and we are seeing real change. I appreciate everything Savannah and Chloe do for every member in The Betrayed’s Haven. I’m starting to see a lot of pain in this world and more people like you guys helping others through their pain is essential for the world to heal.”
“Before entering SSR I was feeling a little apprehensive, nervous, and actually a tad excited. I feel almost all my apprehension is gone and feel quite comfortable sharing with the guys in SSR. I would say learning about myself and the brain and addiction has had the biggest impact on my recovery. The most valuable part of SSR is the relationship suggestions the coaches give, and knowing that I can both support and love my wife in a safer and healthier environment now that I’m in recovery.
I have been able to, for the first time, be completely honest with my wife, and able to be comfortable with sharing with her what I used to think was insignificant or silly feelings from day to day. SSR has helped our relationship feel that spark again through coaching on true intimacy and relationship values, and on a mental, physical, and spiritual level. Everything from our thoughts, feelings, looks, kisses, and hugs have been amplified. Even the most base intimacy is so special again. Chloe and Savannah have helped my wife and I exercise self control through the idea of the 90 day celibacy, which is also from what we’re seeing to be an awesome way to reset ourselves and our brains!
It’s pretty special the way Chloe and Savannah communicate their messages to the group and how they conduct themselves in a professional, yet welcoming manner. If you’re thinking about joining SSR, go for it! I am genuinely and purely enjoying this group, course, and posts. I love learning about myself and enjoying the self improvement. I am always checking Slack to see if there’s a new post or response, to the point where my work day is longer because I pull my truck over to read the posts all the time!”
“Before joining SSR at The Mod, I was lost with no sense of what was wrong with me. By joining SSR I have a clear view of what I must do to have the life I want. SSR has let me know I am not alone in this fight and gives me the resources I need to help me recover from this addiction. The best part of SSR is having Chloe, and Savannah 24/7 to answer my thoughts and questions. I’ve already seen a change in the communication with my wife about my feelings, I understand what addiction is now and how to fight it, and I have hope now, when 2 months ago I didn’t have any. Savannah, and Chloe work well together. If you’re thinking about joining SSR, just try it and see what good coaching can do for your life and family!”
“Before entering Savannah’s program, I was feeling scared, but somewhat hopeful but unsure about how the program could help us. When we graduated the program, I felt confident that we had the tools, skills, and resources to work on our relationship and overcome obstacles as they come up; I also feel way more emotionally “open” with James. The biggest impact the program had was working on trust and open communication in the moment, especially with regards to arguing (or, preventing arguments) and learning how to argue effectively.
I found the most value came from the 60-minute sessions and the homework was extremely beneficial. Honestly, the entire program was super intentional and beneficial. Our relationship has changed with having fewer arguments, we feel more emotionally open/connected and have more one-on-one time that is more intentional and balanced (i.e. we go out AND stay in). Savannah is extremely compassionate and knowledgeable and validating. Her program is clear cut and straight forward while also being challenging and validating to our individual needs (as well as our needs as a couple).
If you have tried other types of help and are thinking about joining Savannah’s program, DO IT! Seriously, I couldn’t recommend Savannah and her program enough. Having a third-party who is objective while also being empathetic and validating is a RARE find in a coach of ANY sort. Savannah is someone who is very intuitive and patient. She treats you both as individuals while also teaching you how to be an actual team as a couple. I am SO grateful for Savannah and her program. My relationship with James is one of the most important relationships I have ever had. Before her program I was honestly doubting our abilities to live together and to make it through as a team. Savannah’s help honestly saved us, and I am confident we will be together for many more years to come!”
“In the Relationship Ready Program, I entered feeling really frustrated with dating. Leaving this program I’ve felt optimistic going forward! This programs made me feel more confident in the dating world. I loved established accountability. I was able to ask someone out, joined dating apps, and overall feel more confident. I love that Savannah explains the science and research to back her methods.”
“I have a background of being the victim of sexual abuse, and a history of pornography, masturbation, and orgasm that spans decades. I have been in therapy, sexual addiction treatment facilities, and many 12-Step Programs. Savannah Esposito is one of the most thoroughly knowledgeable SME (Subject Matter Experts) I have ever had the privilege to know. Her advice and words of wisdom is unsurpassed and unparalleled. I would highly recommend her as your relationship coach.”
“This course helped me gain a fresh new look on relationships. It truly resonated with me and not only helped within my relationship but helped me identify things internally I didn’t realize were happening!! You can’t put a price on the realizations and perspective you gain! I 100% recommend!”
“My husband and I took this course together, and we loved how much closer it made us! We were able to understand each other’s behaviors and perspectives more than we ever have before, and we had some amazing conversations. In addiction, I work as a counselor and case manager. I use information from this course to help my clients improve their relationships. Such an amazing experience, one I recommend to everyone no matter where you are in life.”