I first saw Adam in one of my high school classes, and I instantly noticed how cute he was! Little did I know he thought the same about me, even though I was wearing sweatpants and high tops at the time! We didn’t say a word to each other but we exchanged shy glances until the end of the first block.
When I got home from school that day, I signed up on the “Meetme” app, and within three hours I was talking to Adam. It was definitely a crazy coincidence, but it was the best thing that happened to me! I couldn’t stop smiling during our conversations, and even my granny noticed the next morning. The day after we ended up going on our first date, and ever since then we’ve been inseparable. He ended up asking me to be his girlfriend two weeks later, and four years down the line, we got married and are in our very own house now.
Being married at nineteen (he is twenty-one) has not been easy because we are both still maturing. We quickly found out how real-life problems can put a strain on our relationship. Fights happen, and sometimes they happen every week, depending on our stress levels. At the end of the day, we know fights will happen, but we always remember that we love each other, and that forgiveness is key to a relationship’s survival.
Let me say this, I’ve learned that you can’t expect your partner to be a mind reader. You’re going to need help sometimes, and it’s okay to reach out to them. For example, I was struggling a lot to keep up with all the laundry last month, and one day I asked him to do it, and ever since then, he has been helping out with the laundry. We both know that we have each other’s backs. It’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help. We are a team and it’s okay to act like it!
Being married at nineteen has been pretty great because we get the chance to push each other and work towards our goals together. We have our whole life to create ourselves and that’s exciting! I couldn’t ask for more. The key lessons I’ve learned from being married at a young age are, you can’t move forward without forgiveness, and that asking for help is okay. I’d say that other couples should sit down and have an open talk when discussing needs within the relationship because you’re a team now. Also, when fights arise, take a breath, and remember that forgiveness is essential to moving forward. Remember, both of you guys are still growing.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post! Any other young couples out there comment below if you have any tips or suggestions you’d like to share!
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Written by: Kayla from Dazed Kayla
Edited by: Savannah Esposito