This post may piss people off, and that’s 100% fine.
In fact, we all should get pissed.
We all should realize that what I am about to discuss needs to be brought to light.
The Big Ugly Truth: Your Kids Know.
Your kids are aware something isn’t right.
- They know that daddy doesn’t treat mommy right.
- They hear daddy yelling, screaming, and even throwing things at mommy when mommy tries to address the addiction.
- They hear mommy crying her eyes out in the shower day after day.
- They may even find daddy’s porn and bring it to mommy’s attention.
- They may even be the one who finds daddy or mommy in the middle of an attempt of suicide.
They Know More Than You Think.
Your kids are bright, aware, and they are sponges.
For me, I was NEVER going to let my son grow up with an active addict of a father.
Because really, that’s not even a father when the only relationship that matters is the one they have with their addiction.
I set very clear boundaries: Get clean and in recovery by the age our son is 2 or this is over.
- I was NOT going to have our son’s first memory be daddy yelling with mommy cowering.
- I was NOT going to have our son witness horrible anger outbursts that comes with active addiction.
- I was NOT going to have our son think a man and father is detached emotionally and abusive towards women.
- I was NOT going to have my son watch an active addict deteriorate destroying themselves and everyone around them.
Addiction Kills Families
That’s the truth.
And until you and your spouse CHOOSE to recover, your kids are paying the price.
There is NO shame in getting help.
NO shame.
In fact, getting help is COURAGEOUS and BRAVE and ADMIRABLE.
Choosing Recovery Means Choosing To Live.
If you are already in the situation where your kids are asking questions, or showing concerning behaviors, NOW is the time to get help.
Don’t wait.
You, your spouse, and kids deserve an addiction-free lifestyle (aka a Recovery Lifestyle).
You have the power to shape your kids future with the choices you make today.
I was brave enough to stand up to my husband, tell him I was NOT going to live with an active addict, but would live with an addict in recovery.
I told him I was NOT letting our son witness an active addict as that is 100% damaging to a child.
I CHOSE to be healthy, safe, and stable for my son.
Now we live a successful healthy Recovery Lifestyle.
What are you going to choose for you and your family?
Need help? Let’s hop on a call and discuss recovery options!
