“Become a Warrior” LIVE Group Coaching Program
If you are stuck in betrayal trauma this program is for you!
Being the partner of a masturbation, pornography, or sex addict is one of the biggest challenges one can go through. As a betrayed partner, you have lost your sense of self, your self-esteem, your sense of reality, self-worth, and your ability to trust – not only your partner, but the world and yourself.
I’ve been there. I was once a betrayed partner, lost in grief and shock. I became a warrior in my own journey in recovery when I joined a group of other betrayed partners and we named ourselves “The Warriors™” for our bravery, courage, and strength to not only stay and fight for our marriage, but to face the pain, heal, and move forward.
In this Live Group Coaching Program, you will find that you’re not alone. You will receive the knowledge, validation, support, and skills you need to move from being a traumatized partner to a strong warrior in life. You will not be labeled a co-dependent or co-addict here. At The Mod, we follow the Betrayal Trauma model. At The Mod, you have a safe haven where you can start your journey of recovery and graduate from this program as a Warrior.
You will finally be able to understand what is happening and HOW to move forward!
Major Benefits of being in become a warrior group Coaching program!
With betrayal trauma, often times you feel ashamed of what you’ve been through, your reactions, and how you act around your porn addicted partner.
In Group coaching, you gain accountability strategies from one another, by showing up and being honest and participating, and through making genuine connections. You start to understand that you’re not the only one going through this, having these reactions, and you get to learn new strategies and be accountable to implementing them.
Going from Isolation to community
When suffering from betrayal trauma, one of the side effects is isolation. No one understands what you’re going through, those you’ve opened up to have blamed and dismissed you, telling you that “all men watch pornography, get over it” or “you’re overreacting.” You start to distrust everyone and further isolate while suffering alone and feeling misunderstood.
When you get into group coaching, you are around people who are in the trenches just like you. You are not alone anymore and you realize that you’re not crazy, irrational, or being over sensitive because you’re not the only one going through this. You and so many others are experiencing the trauma that comes from intimate betrayal.
In group coaching you build genuine connection and friendships and can gain the peer support you need to keep your motivation going and keep yourself accountable to your goals.
Knowledge & Skills
In group coaching, you not only get the knowledge and skills of the expert who has been through it, but also you get the insights from your group peers. You get to see what does and does not work. You get to try different methods to figure out what works for you in your own recovery. You don’t have to waste weeks of being isolated trying over and over again with failed methods. You get the tried and true strategies to help recover.
You get to build upon each other’s knowledge, recommend good books, and recommend good recovery tools.
As they say, “two heads are better than one,” and when you have a group of many people who are actively engaged in recovery efforts, you’re going to get a lot of knowledge from them and gain the skills and techniques that you need to navigate your personal recovery successfully.
Here is what you can expect from our Live Become A Warrior Group Coaching Program:
Becoming a Warrior isn’t going to be sitting back and learning. This program is active and engaging and hands on. There are 6 distinct parts of the program outside of the application. You will learn about concepts and will be getting intuitive exercises to do alone and with your partner when ready.
By the end of the 10 weeks together, your biggest takeaways will be:
Understanding Pornography/Sex addiction as well as betrayal trauma
Being able to set and hold your boundaries and consequences
Having accountability in your life and gaining meaningful connections in your life
Understand the KEY factor that will help reconstruct your relationship/marriage when ready
Know that this addiction has NOTHING to do with you
Having a self-care plan and coping skills in place for rocky moments in recovery
Building a War Chest to battle this war against addiction
Building a Support Network
When I found The Mod, I found The Betrayed group. I was lost, scared, depressed, hopeless, confused. Joining The Betrayed helped. It helped A LOT, but it only took me so far.
I got to a point where I was ready to move forward and didn’t even realize it. Not until I noticed that staying in the betrayed was keeping me there. Stuck in that stage. Every story I read, every frustration from everyone else just added another layer of shit on top of me holding me back. I wanted to heal. I needed to move past this with or without my husband. I needed it for me. I needed it for my kids.
We were told The Warriors program is intense. That’s a serious understatement. It’s more than intense. It’s grueling at times. But it’s so good. The harder it gets the better you feel.
There have been times I seriously questioned if I could keep going. But all of the beautiful women, my fellow Warriors, along with all 3 coaches would listen to my feelings. Validate me. Empathize with me. Build me back up. Ask what I need, and sometimes help me figure out what I need, and help me figure out how to get it. We push each other forward. There’s no doubt that I’ve formed lasting true friendships with these women, and one man.
I’ve learned so much about myself in just these first few weeks and I know it’s only just begun. I’ve begun to see who I truly am and what I truly want from life and a relationship. I know you’re probably not putting much thought into that statement, I kind of didn’t either. But it really happens. In a big big way!! I’ve had so many revelations and even gained closure on past hurts. Now I feel hopeful. I’m starting to feel a tiny glimmer of trust in my husband. It’s easier for me to figure out what I need and want in a situation and I’m feeling strong enough to demand it.
My husband and I have had more communication since starting our respective programs than we’ve had in our entire relationship. What’s more, it’s actually meaningful communication.
This isn’t just a job for these coaches as is the case with many. They are all in. It’s their life. They are more knowledgeable than anyone I’ve ever met. Hands down. I’ve yet to see them stumped by any question or situation, and we threw a LOT at them. Sometimes in rapid fire. I really don’t know how they kept up with us sometimes. They don’t give you all the answers. They teach you and guide you to reveal them on your own.
Savannah is kind of like the mother. She guides you in a sensitive way to demand a better, safer and more healthy environment for yourself. Because she’s been where we are and she understands how you feel and why you feel that way.
Tim is the big brother of the group. He will listen to you, offer tons of factual and practical real life advice. He will always tell it the way it is. Like it or not. If anyone messes with you they better watch out for him though. He’s coming after them.
And then there’s Chloe. I like to compare her to the crazy, fun aunt that knows her way around a betrayal, and your sex life. Seriously, any question you could ever have about sex I’d bet big money she knows the answer to it. The one that tells you what you need to hear, not necessarily what you want to hear. After a while though, your needs become your wants. She’s tricky like that.
You can always ask any of the coaches your most personal, private questions that you’re too embarrassed or ashamed to even say out loud. They’ve heard it all before. They never pass judgement. Ever.
My husband has changed dramatically since starting his Knights program. He really is an entirely new person. Before admitting his addiction he was a selfish, self centered, self serving, emotionless, unfeeling, uncaring, uninvolved man child. I used to tell people I have 5 children. 4 young ones and one man child. After admitting he white knuckled. He improved as an overall person but not a lot, not consistently and not in a way that would last.
Since starting his Knights program he’s done a full 180. He’s not recovered yet. He still has flaws. He still makes mistakes. But the difference is his attitude. He is fully committed to himself, his recovery and me. He’s making the choice everyday. I see consistent, real changes in him. His attitude, his demeanor, literally everything.
After only 3 weeks he is caring, he has no rage, he’s not angry, he’s thoughtful, he’s having feelings and emotions and not thinking about porn or masturbating or when he will have the next opportunity to get his next fix. He’s becoming a partner in our relationship instead of just someone who lives here that I have to take care of. He doesn’t look at me like I’m here solely for his use and disposal. He looks at me like I’m a real person. An equal. He’s feeling real love for me that he’s never felt before. He’s having thoughts, feelings and emotions that he’s never had before and who knows if he ever would have had it not been for the Knights program.
If you are even remotely considering joining the program…just do it. I promise you, you will not regret it. If it’s money holding you back, I get that. It was a huge factor for me too. But now, knowing what I do and as far as we’ve come I’d pay 10 times what I did all day every day. That’s how truly worth it this is. I’d spend my last dollar without hesitation. Do whatever you need to do to make it happen. Just make it happen.
I also would strongly encourage you to join as a couple. You will get so much out of this, it’s so fulfilling to go through this together. It’s a bond like no other. My husband and I rarely spoke to each other and if we did there wasn’t much meaning to anything. Now, we never stop talking. We have a real relationship that is only getting better. He is healing individually and I am healing individually. You can’t put a price on that.
How does the program work?
As soon as you are enrolled in the program, you will receive a welcome packet to help get the best results from the program and fully prepare you for the upcoming weeks.
FOR THE NEXT 10 weeks, YOU WILL RECEIVE:
Weekly Group Coaching sessions where you and others will receive group coaching with Savannah Esposito, Timothy Brown, and Chloe Sutherland, where we will address the various challenges and progress for that week. This is one of the most dynamic parts of the program where you get our undivided attention to help you guys move forward and overcome any obstacles. (Total of 10 Group Sessions)
Each person gets an individual session where you will have 1:1 coaching with Savannah Esposito, Timothy Brown, or Chloe Sutherland and address any personal obstacles that are occurring or discuss any issues you are nervous about addressing with your partner so we can figure out a way to bring that issue up. (Each Person Has 1 Individual Session)
Optional Support Partner (which we highly encourage!). In the group, if you find you are clicking with another member in the group, we encourage you to reach out and become each other’s support partner. It’s much like an accountability partner. This is one of the most magical aspects of the program, where you can truly create a bond with another partner in the trenches and get extra support and even friendship in this time of need.
Access to our Private Slack Channel, of people who are in the program where you can get support from others, share tips, get questions answered and get advice. Plus, even more help from Savannah, Tim, or Chloe by posting your question and tagging any/all of us so we will answer your question directly.
BONUS GAS-LIGHTING MODULE!
When you sign up you get the bonus module on gaslighting that we give each week at the end of the main module! Each week we go over the 10 ways gas-lighting occurs!
You have a total of up to 11 Sessions and extra support!
Here Is Just A Snippet Of What You’ll Get When You Join!
MODULE 1: Addiction & Betrayal Trauma Education
1. Learning about addiction is one of the most important aspects of being able to put your reality back together. Once we teach you about addiction, you will begin to understand, predict, and even address your partner’s dysfunctional behavior in an effective and healthy way. (Week 1)
2. Learning about Betrayal Trauma is also essential to recovery. When you learn what is happening, you will be able to reduce the shame you’re feeling, and start building the skills of compassion, patience, and self-love back in your life. (Week 2)
MODULE 2: Boundaries, Rules, & Consequences
1. This is one of the MOST important aspects of recovery that SO MANY partners get wrong. This is why you’re stuck on repeat, and when you master this, you will see a shift in your relationship. (Week 3)
2. You will be practicing these skills one of your private sessions if you choose to, and learn how to be strong if you are challenged on the boundaries you’ve set. (Week 4)
MODULE 3: Accountability
You’re going through a host of emotions in a flash. You’re angry one second, crying the next, screaming the next, then completely shut down. Those are normal reactions to trauma, but in this module you will learn how to be accountable for your choices and your behaviors as well.
Part of accountability is checking in with your Support Partner, but also doing the Daily Worksheets we provide you in this program. (Week 5)
MODULE 4: Micro-Trust
Trust is an ESSENTIAL part of recovery. Trust has been absolutely shattered and thus, you need to learn how trust is actually rebuilt. Many approach rebuilding trust in the wrong ways, with good intentions.
In this module you will be learning exactly how trust is rebuilt and what to look for and ask for in this journey to see whether your partner is really ready to rebuild! (Week 6)
MODULE 5: Am I Enough
Betrayed partners often are plagued with constant critical voices in their head, wondering if they’ll ever be enough for their partner.
They wonder how they didn’t see it, why their efforts weren’t good enough to keep their partner with them and only them. They blame themselves no matter how hard they tried, no matter how many times they compromised their values and their own self-respect during sex, to try to “win” their partner back from pornography.
In this Module we work on rebuilding self-esteem and really working on accepting that this addiction is NOT about you. (Week 7 & Week 8)
MODULE 6: Self Care & Coping Skills
1. Now that you’re educated, getting stable, and developing strong friendships, we are going to be working on incorporating some amazing coping skills into your life before graduating this program! (Week 9)
2. After working on coping skills, we are going to be creating individualized Self-Care Plans for the rest of your recovery journey. These are not set in stone and can evolve as you evolve in recovery. This is one of the most important parts of the program as if you have coping skills and self-care in place you will be 100 times better off no matter what your partner chooses to do! (Week 10)
Congratulations! You’ve Graduated!
After finishing the program, you will have graduated from being a betrayed partner to a Warrior! You will be getting some amazing graduation gifts sent your way as a sign of the amazing progress and transformation you’ve made!
Now, you’re probably wondering what the cost of The “Become a Warrior” Live Group Coaching Program is…
Honestly, I want you to see this not as a cost, as cost implies a loss of something. I want you to look at this as an investment in yourself, as with investments you gain something, and in this program you will be gaining SO MUCH it’s unbelievable.
When you enter this program and graduate, you will have gained so much knowledge, and that alone will be a huge change! You also will be gaining life-long friendships! That’s right, you’re no longer alone in this hell. You have others who are there with you, growing, healing, and they will be your supporters and friends in this journey.
One of the amazing things you’ll gain is a sense of self-worth and knowing that boundaries are healthy. You will be able to stand up for yourself and know you ARE WORTHY OF RESPECT AND LOVE.
So, tell me, truly how much is that worth to you? If You Ask Me, It’s PRICELESS!
This program is only $997 and honestly it’s a steal. What you will learn and gain in this program is insurmountable and will change your life. I also know that not everyone has $997 to just drop at once, and that is why I offer payment plans to make this investment easier. So, if you need the payment plan option, it’s there! You can join today with just a payment of $397 with two following monthly payments of $397.
Our program is a game changer. You are not going to be stuck anymore, you will have personal power again, and be able to hold your ground with friends to stand by you. That’s pretty damn amazing if you ask me.
Before joining The Warriors I was soaking up growth in The Betrayed. I felt like I was really committed to healing and wanting to move passed betrayal trauma as efficiently as I could. I also knew I could not do this alone, at least not in the time frame I wanted that would allow me to enjoy my life after this tragedy. I felt ready to take on more and take ownership of my journey and simultaneously learn how to relinquish my need for control. I was excited, nervous and scared to get this program going. I was even more terrified of stepping outside my comfort zone, The Betrayed; the safe haven after so much destruction. The unknown can be so terrifying. But I knew if I was going to amp this up, I needed to leave the minors for the majors. I can’t be present in both arenas at once. I chose to keep moving forward even in fear of unknown. I also felt like I was moving forward with other winners who chose themselves too. All being led by these three amazing coaches who believe in us and our healing. For the circumstances, you can’t really ask for more.
We’ve been in the program for 3 weeks now and I’m getting an abundance of information on the “how.” I feel like I’m finally moving forward in my own journey. It’s crazy to feel I’ve hardly begun even with so much of the hard stuff behind us already. I’m learning how to read my heart, speak my truth and stand up for my needs. I’m learning how to apply healthy coping skills into my life to navigate the betrayal trauma. Overall, this journey has remained a scary rollercoaster but I’d rather keep moving forward and taking the dips than spinning round and round in life just praying maybe one day, it will be different but I keep just seeing the same thing over and over again. I’d love to say I’m no longer fearful and am resilient beyond measure. But that’s not how it works. I think here I am learning how to build courage and resilience within me to apply to my life. It’s simply not a one and done task. I know I will grow to my absolute best potential here, but the work is never done. Here, I learn how to and how to keep going, no matter the obstacles. This is also part of the reason you can’t do this alone. You will be in fear as this journey unfolds and over time and effort you will become greater than your fears. You need a support system to help push you forward in the face of fear. Fear will always be, but here I feel almost unstoppable!
This program is unique in it’s resources, structure and purpose. Coaching is more about application and requires the student to be proactive in their growth journey. It’s very different than the student-teacher relationship that most of us are used to. Teaching applies to all students to match a bar or standard, no matter his/hers skill, aptitude or learning technique. But coaching is individualistic. The coach meets you where you are at and has you apply from there. We all have our own individual bars that we will grow to. The dynamic can be challenging to master. With this spirit, the coaches have their work cut out for them. They have intimate knowledge of each of their clients and the direction of healing that best suits them. This program blueprint allows us to have the best of both worlds for both knowledge and practical works. The system is built to help you earn your freedom after betrayal trauma. They don’t want mindless dependents following them forever but instead to actually help and release us back into life with confidence, knowledge, skill and compassion. To help us learn how to stand on our own two feet again, like we did once before. With that blueprint for growth in mind, the coaches monitor our journey giving an occasional nudge in the right direction. Because of their experience and expertise they can foresee the potential challenges and roadblocks and aim to equip us with the ability to navigate them. Here, we are blossoming and they nurture us in a hands off fashion. It is different than when I was in The Betrayed; because I was different and my needs and challenges were greater then.
My husband took off running shortly after Dday. He’s not perfect but he is running with me. When we were given the opportunity to join The Knights & The Warriors he jumped at it. He was hesitant and shared a lot of the same fears I had. But he knew this was the next step. He knew I would join with or without him so he chose with. He too is enjoying the abundance of information and is applying it to all areas in his life. He is making huge strides in healing and in leadership. This program and healing has revealed to him who he felt he always was but had a hard time accessing it. He loves the companionship with the other members in The Knights; he too feels like he is running with winners. Running for change, recovery and their lives. My husband is learning how to be transparent with me and he is also learning healthy coping skills and mindset. He has been ever evolving since Dday and this program really helped him raise the bar to where he would like it. He applies everything he learns to every facet in his life and I’m proud to call him my husband.
If I could talk to someone who is considering joining I would ask them what is holding them back? I would ask them if that was more important to them than getting their life back. Rather, their new life. This whole journey completely offset my entire plan and purpose in life. I knew there was a limited amount of time to get it back on track and that I alone couldn’t accomplish what needed to be done. I had no idea what happened in my life or how to fix it. The Betrayed for me, helped me figure out what happened; and Warriors for me, is how to fix it. It’s simply not enough to know what happened. You still have to make amends in order to enjoy life. If you only know what happened, you only learn to live in Betrayal Trauma. The point is not to stay there. The next step is to help you move through and passed it. Do whatever it takes to join; your future self will thank you.
Ready to Enroll or Have questions?
These are the most common questions people ask
How Can I Justify The Cost of the Program? What About Help For My Partner?
This program will change you life. Rather than repeating the same old patterns and being in a horrible relationship and state, you will be moving forward and will grow. Can you really afford to not invest? And as for your partner, we do have the Become A Knight LIVE Group Coaching program for the addicts as well, and as a special, we love it when both the betrayed and the addicted sign up for their individual programs together because it gives you guys just that much more of a chance of really making recovery stick, that we offer a couples special price of $1499. Now, again we do have payment plans for that option as well where you pay $550 to enroll with 2 monthly payments of $550.
We Have very busy schedules. My Partner’s job is demanding. How can we justify the Commitment?
I am going to be blunt, you cannot afford to waste anymore time NOT being in recovery. If you’re not in recovery, neither of you are healing and you’re staying stuck in a painful and unhealthy dynamic that will eventually end the relationship. If recovery and marriage are important to you, I assure you, you will find the time. It’s about what is truly your priority.
When can I sign up?
ENROLLMENT OPEN for the next live round.
Start date: May 3rd
End Date: July 12th