TAKE HOME 4 DAY PROGRAM FOR BETRAYED PARTNERS WANTING TO TAKE ACTION!
Dear Betrayed Partner,
It is SO crucial to get into recovery NOW because addicts in isolation end up relapsing, and you DESERVE to begin healing!
Do you feel the constant anxiety, wondering if your partner is using?
You set boundaries only to have your sexually addicted partner walk all over them
You have found evidence and know what they are up to but your partner is in denial
You set consequences, yet you just can’t pull the trigger
You try talking with your partner only for them to get angry and defensive and shut you down
You explain porn is cheating, and your partner says it’s not cheating
You feel crazy every day thinking something is wrong with you
You feel you’re not enough, no matter how many things you do to become the “perfect” partner
If so, you’re in the right place, and I’m SO grateful you’re here!
You are NOT alone.
Actually, there are SO many betrayed partners out there going through the exact same thing.
Often, betrayed partners end up making key mistakes in attempts to solve the problem of having a porn or sexually addicted spouse.
They often first go to a therapist – only for the therapist to call them co-dependent and enable the addict to keep using because “porn addiction doesn’t exist.”
When reaching out for therapy ends up being a fail (time and time again) often you feel lost and even more hopeless and invalidated than before you began searching for help.
That is all HORRIFIC to experience on top of the trauma your porn and sexually addicted spouse has already inflicted.
At The Mod, we use the Betrayal Trauma Model and you are 100% validated in your feelings and your reality.
The truth is: Recovery is a Daily Choice. It’s a choice that you make to stay healthy.
No matter how many articles or books you read about recovery, the truth is you NEED more. You aren’t going to be able to fully work your individual recovery without these key components:
Experts to guide you
Why are those 3 things key?
Because without community, betrayal trauma gets worse.
Being with other women who are going through this very thing helps validate your experiences, enable you to begin to trust other people, and to start forming life-long safe friendships.
Without accountability, betrayal trauma can be almost impossible to recover from. Accountability is key in recovery because it makes you hold yourself to a higher standard when you know you have to check-in with others. You are responsible for your daily choices and actions.
Without experts to guide you, you’re bound to fall into the biggest pitfalls of recovery. At The Mod, Chloe and I (& our husbands) have fallen into some of the biggest pitfalls that can stall recovery for YEARS, and we teach our clients to AVOID those pitfalls and streamline recovery.
In this take home program, Chloe & I teach & guiding you from feeling…
– Paralyzed with fear & uncertainty
To leave First Step feeling…
– Realization of your next steps!
Plus, with all the amazing things you learn, you WILL get an individual session with your take home program so you can get LIVE feedback and coaching!
WHO IS THIS FOR?
The First Step Into Recovery Program is for betrayed partners of masturbation, pornography, and/or sex addicts that are READY to take action, participate, learn, be engaged, and BEGIN their healing journey.
Whether you’re on your First OR tenth step, this is for you!
You might be experiencing hopelessness, anger, frustration, shock, bitterness, and just want to start trusting again! If so, then This is for YOU!
You are READY to get asked the tough questions, reflect, gain insight, and take the necessary action you need to get the results you have been dying for!
HERE’S WHAT YOU’RE GOING TO LEARN IN…
Module 1: The Challenges To Getting Into Recovery
Module 2: The Impact of Addiction on Partners (and Family)
Module 3: The Cost of Staying In Addiction & Trauma
Module 4: Creating Your Recovery Plan
– 9 Secrets To Keep The Spark Alive When Baby Arrives
– 5 Relationship Coaching Tips
– Relationship Guide
– Bonus Call on Anger, PIED, and Addressing Recovery with Your Partner
VIP Take Home includes 2 individual sessions and over 4 hours of relationship reconstruction bonus calls
Base Take Home Program Includes 1 individual session
–You’ll be asked KEY questions in coaching exercises so that you can gain insight.
–You will go from Paralyzed to having “AHA” Moments that get you Motivated to Move!
–You will connect the dots that you haven’t been able to connect before so that you CAN move forward confidently.
–You’re suddenly going to see things with CLARITY instead of confusion
–You will be doing exercises each day that challenge you to dig deep so that you will WANT to move forward.
–You will be making CHANGES each day that will eventually lead you to a successful recovery!
Meet Savannah Esposito, CEO + Relationship & Recovery Coach @ The Mod
This program was originally designed to be completed in 4 days, but as a take home you can go at YOUR own pace and have the freedom to complete exercises on YOUR time.
Kick-Ass Relationship & Recovery Coach. I run an intentional, intensive, high-end coaching practice with my co-coach Chloe that get clients results.
My marriage with Jak wasn’t always as amazing as it is today. In fact, when I discovered my husband’s porn addiction, we weren’t married, and things were already stressful. I chose to marry Jak knowing about his addiction, and I don’t regret it one bit!
Honestly: I wasn’t always great at recovery. I sucked at making boundaries, figuring out what consequences I would actually follow through with, and realizing that my husband’s recovery was HIS to own. Not mine.
But in our journey to The Recovery Lifestyle, we fell into the biggest pitfalls and we learned the key things you need to not only be successful as individuals but successful in relationship reconstruction.
While Jak and I were going through our journey I met Chloe, and we become fast friends in recovery. We each made mistakes, had successes, and we decided betrayed partners deserved more.
We didn’t have help in our recovery. We had to figure things out on our own. Betrayal Trauma wasn’t that popular back when we were in the trenches.
Chloe and I succeeded because we committed and figured out through tons of trial and error, hours of frustration, and endless conversations what works and what doesn’t. Now we teach YOU how to be successful like us!
Our holistic approach works.
It’s a step-by-step proven system to get you from trauma to freedom. We walk you through each step intentionally, so you don’t miss any of the keys to success!
When you invest in this take home program, you will be brought to a page to book your individual session with either Chloe or myself. If you’re unsure of which coach you’d like to book with check out this page to help you see which one of us would be the best fit for you! (and if you need to switch which coach you want to schedule with, that is also fine too!)
Fun times from the Bonus Relationship Reconstruction calls we did with our husbands where we answered over 50 questions on how to reconstruct your marriage!
Want to be a VIP and get these Bonus Calls (OVER 4 HOURS) + 2 individual sessions?
CHECK OUT THE AMAZING RESULTS FROM LAST ROUND!!
Before joining First Step Into Recovery I was feeling pretty lost. Being in First Step has helped me get my husband into Become a Knight and SSR! I loved being able to connect to all the other women out there living this same nightmare and understanding that it’s not US going crazy, but to acknowledge that the SSA/BT are SERIOUS issues that can be healed!
From First Step I’ve already been able to recognize my triggers and start managing them, I’ve managed to also define my needs very clearly, and I see so much more clearly what the options are: recovery, recovery, recovery for the rest of our life.
If you’re thinking about joining this FREE Mini-Program nothing compares to The Mod! The Mod rocks!
Before First Step I tried couples therapy (which was crap!), old school psychiatrist (which was crap!!), and honestly, The Mod gets to the point and is effective and informed.
I took this free mini-program and it’s my 60th birthday today and I just want to say thank you so much for the present I got from The Mod! I feel empowered and confident, especially with my man committed now!
Before First Step Into Recovery I was feeling lost. Since being in First Step I am clearer headed about what I need to be doing for me and in creating boundaries. First Step helped me start to become surer of myself in terms of decision making and finding my strength again.
The calls were amazing in First Step! They created breakthroughs! With the breakthroughs I had, I also am able to stand my ground and recover further.
Before The Mod we were in therapy for 7 months which didn’t get to the root of the problem and address the addiction. Because Savannah and Chloe have been through this, they understand SSA & BT tremendously! And if you’re thinking of trying First Step, do this before giving up!
This is a great free mini program that gives a clear road map on how to get your life back from betrayal trauma!
Joining First Step Into Recovery, I came in feeling lost, pissed, confused and hopeless. In First Step all the exercises were helpful. Even when I didn’t think it pertained to me, they would come up in conversation with my husband and I already had knowledge on it!
I’d like to get into Warriors now that First Step is over.
In First Step I was able to take action. I was able to see that there is actual hope for us and recovery.
It was amazing to learn that there are other women out there in the same situation as I am. I’m not crazy for being upset that he has an addiction. It was amazing to have the coaches listen and to show me the way to go from here!
Because of First Step my husband is FINALLY getting the help we didn’t know he needed! I feel more myself than I have since I’ve had my children. I am invested in myself and am demanding that I get better for myself and my children whether my husband gives up or not.
The Mod is special because they’ve been there. They understand all the emotions and pain. The Mod isn’t trying to coach others based on what they “think” you’re going through. The Mod has insight. They can’t no judgement for all the emotions the betrayed and the addicted are feeling.
If you’re on the fence about this program, DO IT! I haven’t been searching long for help and I was so lucky to have found The Mod when I did! Savannah is so relatable. It feels like I am listening to my friends giving me advice instead of a therapist who “thinks” they know what’s best. Savannah and Chloe say what they mean and mean what they say. They are confident in themselves and in their clients!
Before finding The Mod I’d only found out my husband was an addict in April. I knew he struggled with it for many years, but I didn’t know he could be addicted and what it does to the brain and what it does emotionally.
I am so extremely thankful for this opportunity to finally get both me and my husband on the way to recovery!
When I joined First Step Into Recovery, I was feeling like I had come a long way in getting my mind and emotions stable but had a long way to go in getting back to functioning in the real world. When First Step ended, I felt excited because I have my head up on the journey ahead with Warriors! The fear of the unknown is lifted! First Step was interactive.
First Step is NOT about going to a class and listening to a talk. It’s about getting knowledge, doing what you have been given and taking action! The knowledge that is available and the encouragement in First Step was SO valuable!
With First Step I am investing in full recovery for myself instead of settling for just getting by. I can now see the possibility of my life being active and energized again, see myself for the real person I am, and I realize now there are things that can be done differently.
You have a team of three working together and have a real live man on your team. I know how women think, feel and function with this addiction but I want to know how men come through this successful. I want to know their struggles and what they go through and how the men that overcome this addiction do it. Being in the dark about men’s struggles has been a hindrance for me. Also, you don’t hold back truth and knowledge. All three of you put it on the table in clear view.
If you are on the fence, if what you have done hasn’t helped or moved you to the next level in where you need healing, then please don’t give up! It is hard going it alone, and we were meant to keep moving higher!Before The Mod I did lots of research and read books and talked to friends who gave all they had for the first year. Second year we done 1:1 mentoring which was lifesaving and what we needed at that time to get stable. We got into groups which was good for communication. I desired more knowledge and understanding about what happened to us, why, and where to go from here. The Mod has the knowledge of this addiction and answers that I have not found elsewhere.
Leaving First Step I am determined to get to a new normal and will fight this addiction and trauma!
Entering First Step Into Recovery I was feeling terrible, scared, hurt, angry and emotional. In First Step I was finally able to accept that my husband is a sex addict. I was able to learn about boundaries and consequences and I know I need recovery! My husband joined SSR as well, and I’ve accepted that SSA is in our lives.
The Mod understands all this as they’ve been through this themselves and are helpful and answer all our questions!
If you are even debating on this free mini program, you need to do it! It will really kick start your recovery!!
Before The Mod I’d tried therapy and books but The Mod was nothing like anything I’d done before! This mini program was absolutely fantastic and helped me a lot!
CHECK OUT THE KILLER COMMENTS MY CLIENTS SAY ABOUT THE MOD’S COACHING!
When I found The Mod, I found The Betrayed group. I was lost, scared, depressed, hopeless, confused. Joining The Betrayed helped. It helped A LOT, but it only took me so far.
I got to a point where I was ready to move forward and didn’t even realize it. Not until I noticed that staying in the betrayed was keeping me there. Stuck in that stage. Every story I read, every frustration from everyone else just added another layer of shit on top of me holding me back. I wanted to heal. I needed to move past this with or without my husband. I needed it for me. I needed it for my kids.
We were told The Warriors program is intense. That’s a serious understatement. It’s more than intense. It’s grueling at times. But it’s so good. The harder it gets the better you feel.
There have been times I seriously questioned if I could keep going. But all of the beautiful women, my fellow Warriors, along with all 3 coaches would listen to my feelings. Validate me. Empathize with me. Build me back up. Ask what I need, and sometimes help me figure out what I need, and help me figure out how to get it. We push each other forward. There’s no doubt that I’ve formed lasting true friendships with these women, and one man.
I’ve learned so much about myself in just these first few weeks and I know it’s only just begun. I’ve begun to see who I truly am and what I truly want from life and a relationship. I know you’re probably not putting much thought into that statement, I kind of didn’t either. But it really happens. In a big big way!! I’ve had so many revelations and even gained closure on past hurts. Now I feel hopeful. I’m starting to feel a tiny glimmer of trust in my husband. It’s easier for me to figure out what I need and want in a situation and I’m feeling strong enough to demand it.
My husband and I have had more communication since starting our respective programs than we’ve had in our entire relationship. What’s more, it’s actually meaningful communication.
This isn’t just a job for these coaches as is the case with many. They are all in. It’s their life. They are more knowledgeable than anyone I’ve ever met. Hands down. I’ve yet to see them stumped by any question or situation, and we threw a LOT at them. Sometimes in rapid fire. I really don’t know how they kept up with us sometimes. They don’t give you all the answers. They teach you and guide you to reveal them on your own.
Savannah is kind of like the mother. She guides you in a sensitive way to demand a better, safer and more healthy environment for yourself. Because she’s been where we are and she understands how you feel and why you feel that way.
Tim is the big brother of the group. He will listen to you, offer tons of factual and practical real life advice. He will always tell it the way it is. Like it or not. If anyone messes with you they better watch out for him though. He’s coming after them.
And then there’s Chloe. I like to compare her to the crazy, fun aunt that knows her way around a betrayal, and your sex life. Seriously, any question you could ever have about sex I’d bet big money she knows the answer to it. The one that tells you what you need to hear, not necessarily what you want to hear. After a while though, your needs become your wants. She’s tricky like that.
You can always ask any of the coaches your most personal, private questions that you’re too embarrassed or ashamed to even say out loud. They’ve heard it all before. They never pass judgement. Ever.
My husband has changed dramatically since starting his Knights program. He really is an entirely new person. Before admitting his addiction he was a selfish, self centered, self serving, emotionless, unfeeling, uncaring, uninvolved man child. I used to tell people I have 5 children. 4 young ones and one man child. After admitting he white knuckled. He improved as an overall person but not a lot, not consistently and not in a way that would last.
Since starting his Knights program he’s done a full 180. He’s not recovered yet. He still has flaws. He still makes mistakes. But the difference is his attitude. He is fully committed to himself, his recovery and me. He’s making the choice everyday. I see consistent, real changes in him. His attitude, his demeanor, literally everything.
After only 3 weeks he is caring, he has no rage, he’s not angry, he’s thoughtful, he’s having feelings and emotions and not thinking about porn or masturbating or when he will have the next opportunity to get his next fix. He’s becoming a partner in our relationship instead of just someone who lives here that I have to take care of. He doesn’t look at me like I’m here solely for his use and disposal. He looks at me like I’m a real person. An equal. He’s feeling real love for me that he’s never felt before. He’s having thoughts, feelings and emotions that he’s never had before and who knows if he ever would have had it not been for the Knights program.
If you are even remotely considering joining the program…just do it. I promise you, you will not regret it. If it’s money holding you back, I get that. It was a huge factor for me too. But now, knowing what I do and as far as we’ve come I’d pay 10 times what I did all day every day. That’s how truly worth it this is. I’d spend my last dollar without hesitation. Do whatever you need to do to make it happen. Just make it happen.
I also would strongly encourage you to join as a couple. You will get so much out of this, it’s so fulfilling to go through this together. It’s a bond like no other. My husband and I rarely spoke to each other and if we did there wasn’t much meaning to anything. Now, we never stop talking. We have a real relationship that is only getting better. He is healing individually and I am healing individually. You can’t put a price on that.
Before joining The Warriors I was soaking up growth in The Betrayed. I felt like I was really committed to healing and wanting to move passed betrayal trauma as efficiently as I could. I also knew I could not do this alone, at least not in the time frame I wanted that would allow me to enjoy my life after this tragedy. I felt ready to take on more and take ownership of my journey and simultaneously learn how to relinquish my need for control. I was excited, nervous and scared to get this program going. I was even more terrified of stepping outside my comfort zone, The Betrayed; the safe haven after so much destruction. The unknown can be so terrifying. But I knew if I was going to amp this up, I needed to leave the minors for the majors. I can’t be present in both arenas at once. I chose to keep moving forward even in fear of unknown. I also felt like I was moving forward with other winners who chose themselves too. All being led by these three amazing coaches who believe in us and our healing. For the circumstances, you can’t really ask for more.
We’ve been in the program for 3 weeks now and I’m getting an abundance of information on the “how.” I feel like I’m finally moving forward in my own journey. It’s crazy to feel I’ve hardly begun even with so much of the hard stuff behind us already. I’m learning how to read my heart, speak my truth and stand up for my needs. I’m learning how to apply healthy coping skills into my life to navigate the betrayal trauma. Overall, this journey has remained a scary rollercoaster but I’d rather keep moving forward and taking the dips than spinning round and round in life just praying maybe one day, it will be different but I keep just seeing the same thing over and over again. I’d love to say I’m no longer fearful and am resilient beyond measure. But that’s not how it works. I think here I am learning how to build courage and resilience within me to apply to my life. It’s simply not a one and done task. I know I will grow to my absolute best potential here, but the work is never done. Here, I learn how to and how to keep going, no matter the obstacles. This is also part of the reason you can’t do this alone. You will be in fear as this journey unfolds and over time and effort you will become greater than your fears. You need a support system to help push you forward in the face of fear. Fear will always be, but here I feel almost unstoppable!
This program is unique in it’s resources, structure and purpose. Coaching is more about application and requires the student to be proactive in their growth journey. It’s very different than the student-teacher relationship that most of us are used to. Teaching applies to all students to match a bar or standard, no matter his/hers skill, aptitude or learning technique. But coaching is individualistic. The coach meets you where you are at and has you apply from there. We all have our own individual bars that we will grow to. The dynamic can be challenging to master. With this spirit, the coaches have their work cut out for them. They have intimate knowledge of each of their clients and the direction of healing that best suits them. This program blueprint allows us to have the best of both worlds for both knowledge and practical works. The system is built to help you earn your freedom after betrayal trauma. They don’t want mindless dependents following them forever but instead to actually help and release us back into life with confidence, knowledge, skill and compassion. To help us learn how to stand on our own two feet again, like we did once before. With that blueprint for growth in mind, the coaches monitor our journey giving an occasional nudge in the right direction. Because of their experience and expertise they can foresee the potential challenges and roadblocks and aim to equip us with the ability to navigate them. Here, we are blossoming and they nurture us in a hands off fashion. It is different than when I was in The Betrayed; because I was different and my needs and challenges were greater then.
My husband took off running shortly after Dday. He’s not perfect but he is running with me. When we were given the opportunity to join The Knights & The Warriors he jumped at it. He was hesitant and shared a lot of the same fears I had. But he knew this was the next step. He knew I would join with or without him so he chose with. He too is enjoying the abundance of information and is applying it to all areas in his life. He is making huge strides in healing and in leadership. This program and healing has revealed to him who he felt he always was but had a hard time accessing it. He loves the companionship with the other members in The Knights; he too feels like he is running with winners. Running for change, recovery and their lives. My husband is learning how to be transparent with me and he is also learning healthy coping skills and mindset. He has been ever evolving since Dday and this program really helped him raise the bar to where he would like it. He applies everything he learns to every facet in his life and I’m proud to call him my husband.
If I could talk to someone who is considering joining I would ask them what is holding them back? I would ask them if that was more important to them than getting their life back. Rather, their new life. This whole journey completely offset my entire plan and purpose in life. I knew there was a limited amount of time to get it back on track and that I alone couldn’t accomplish what needed to be done. I had no idea what happened in my life or how to fix it. The Betrayed for me, helped me figure out what happened; and Warriors for me, is how to fix it. It’s simply not enough to know what happened. You still have to make amends in order to enjoy life. If you only know what happened, you only learn to live in Betrayal Trauma. The point is not to stay there. The next step is to help you move through and passed it. Do whatever it takes to join; your future self will thank you.
“Before joining The Warriors program I was feeling lost and hopeless. Our biggest obstacle was that I didn’t think my husband would allow me to spend money to join Warriors and I certainly didn’t think he’d pay to join Knights. We eventually reached a point where we both were stuck and I told him I was joining Warriors whether he liked it or not. That’s when he decided he would join Knights.
Being in this program, I’m feeling hopeful that my life will be much more peaceful whether or not my marriage lasts. I feel empowered and more confident in myself!
I have gained so much peace and confidence through this program. I’ve also gained some great friendships with ladies who have experienced the same type of trauma and I am forever grateful for the opportunity to create those connections!!
The most valuable module for me was BRoACH! It’s changed my life!!!! Learning how to properly set appropriate boundaries & enforce them with consequences has given me so much peace!! The Purge was also something that I didn’t realize we needed to do but I’m so thankful we did it now!!
My husband & I can now talk about his betrayals without him getting defensive. He has learned how to be more empathetic & gives me the space I need to process my emotions. We’ve only had sex 2 times since completing our 90 days however, those two times we were more emotionally connected than we have ever been in our 22 years of marriage. Our fighting has also decreased & our communication with each other has greatly increased both with the quality & quantity of intimate conversations. My husband is finally starting to desire a more intimate connection.
I appreciate how all the coaches specialize in different areas that are vital to recovery & not just because you’ve studied it but because you’ve lived it. Chloe doesn’t beat around the bush and speaks her mind. Savannah is sensitive in her approach but she still speaks the truth no matter how hard it is to hear. She’s also very encouraging and validating with our feelings! I love that Tim doesn’t sugar coat the truth. He’s very straightforward but gracefully bold.
If you’re considering Warriors, DO IT!!! There’s nothing else out there like this program. When I was in therapy & SANON I felt like I was drowning without any guidance on how to get to the surface. Now I can finally breathe because my head is above water. This program covers everything you need to fully recover & heal. I feel like a whole new person.
Before I found The Mod and joined Warriors my husband and I did weekly therapy sessions, a 3 day intensive with Heart to Heart & attended weekly SANON meetings. They were only slightly helpful. Every therapist or group leader talked about boundaries but nobody ever showed me or told me how to create them. Not once was a purge ever recommended or suggested.
I also love how the coaches don’t judge you for doubting & checking up on your husband. I’m 12 steps they made me feel guilty for tracking him or for investigating if he was still acting out. I love how the coaches validate our need to look for continuity.
I’m forever grateful that I found The Mod!! It truly has changed my life & given me more & better tools to use not just in my marriage but in all relationships of my life.”
“Before Warriors I was feeling lost, depressed, anxious and defeated. My spouse and my own skepticism were my biggest obstacles. I had a breakdown one night and just told him something had to change or I was leaving. I told him I wanted to try this program and he agreed.
Being in Warriors I feel stronger and more informed about this issue. I’m still very anxious and depressed but that’s mainly because I’m not sure if he is truly working the recovery and I just don’t know if he will continue to stay in recovery. His wavering makes my anxiety and depression go up. This program I think is making me strong enough to leave if he doesn’t continue.
The best part of this program for me is the information and a different way of thinking and dealing with the situations. I have gained a lot of information on what to watch for, how to think of things from his perspective. I have also gained a ton of knowledge about how the addicted brain works and how to work with that.
The BRoACH and Micro-Trust Module were the most valuable to me, and I love the slack group and ACE exercise! My husband and I are more open and honest. I feel stronger and better equipped to deal with the addiction and the consequences. He is more aware of how this has affected me and himself. Recovery is now a daily thing not just once in a while.
The coaches are great at making the information easy to understand and it comes from people who have been there and understands the dynamics. Chloe is very real and passionate with the clients and Savannah is sweet, understanding and supportive, while Tim is real and provides a view from the side of the addicts brain so that we can better understand. He is open and honest.
If you’re considering Warriors it is a wonderful program that helps the SSA and the betrayed work side by side to make changes to promote healing.”
“Before entering The Warriors, I was in The Betrayed which helped me tremendously, however, I was ready for that next step. I was ready to put recovery into full force. Before The Betrayed, I was completely lost and had no idea how to tackle the issues my husband and I were having. I felt hopeless about our marriage.
I would say my spouse was about 90% on board. There was a small part of him that was apprehensive, but luckily, at that point, he was willing to do whatever it took. Thankfully, money was not a huge obstacle for us but it still felt like we were taking a leap of faith. Of course, me being in The Betrayed, I already had a lot of faith in the coaches and the program, but again, my husband was a little apprehensive. Time management was the issue we were both the most concerned about. For me, it was about the unknown…not knowing exactly how much time in my day I was going to have to dedicate to recovery. With my husband’s brutal work schedule at the time, we were both very concerned he would not be able to keep up. However, his job schedule changed so time ha not been an issue. Either way, I believe he would have been able to make it work.
I’ve gained way more knowledge than I could have ever imagined. There is no doubt, we are getting every penny’s worth out of this program. I definitely believe that I will walk away from this program with all of the tools I need to move forward. I feel super confident in my recovery, and my husband’s recovery. I’ve seen huge changes in him and our marriage in a short period of time. I know we both still have a lot of work to do, but for the first time in years, I feel hopeful about our future, and that is priceless!
Warriors has given me hope. I have faith now, that my marriage will be okay. This program has lifted so much weight off my shoulders. I no longer wake up every morning feel depressed and anxious. Of course, I have my bad moments/days still, but they are much less frequent and not as intense.
I’d have to say, the most valuable aspect of the program for me is, the endless dedication that the coaches show us every single day. Every single question is answered and answered thoroughly. No question is too much for the coaches. They have literally thought of everything, covered every aspect of this addiction. If I could add one more thing, it would be the group environment. Learning from my peers, having their love and support, has meant the world to me.
Since Warriors, my depression and anxiety have subsided greatly. I feel a sense of calmness and peacefulness, as well as hopefulness. The second way my life has changed, is I feel more emotionally connected to my husband, than I have in years. And lastly, there is more transparency, honesty, and communication than there has ever been in my marriage.
This coaching team works day in and day out, every single day. I would be surprised if there are other coaches out there that are as dedicated as Chloe, Savannah and Tim.
I love Chloe’s no B.S. approach. She tells it like it is. Her knowledge about sex is truly mind blowing. I would have never imagined how complex this topic can be. Everything I’ve learned from her so far has been fascinating. I love that I feel like I can ask her about literally anything, no matter how weird or embarrassing I think it may be. She has an answer for everything and never makes you feel judged.
Savannah and Chloe are the perfect pair because they balance each other out. Savannah is still very straight forward, but in a more delicate way. She is super knowledgeable and gives amazing guidance. I love that she opens up and shares her own personal experiences to give us great examples to help us understand something better.
Tim is like everyone’s protective big brother. Its been amazing having his coaching, knowing he sees everything from a different perspective. He’s been there, on the addicts point of view, which I’m sure is why he can easily see through the addict’s B.S. and has zero tolerance for it. I appreciate his well thought out, extremely thorough responses to every situation and question. He’s up lifting and helps us Warriors remember our self worth.
Looking for help elsewhere? Okay, but you’re not going to find anything like this program. In my opinion, these coaches, the way they work, and the program they have created are truly unique and one of a kind. There has not been one single time that I’ve second guessed or doubted my trust and confidence in this program. There is no guess work here. We are instructed on exactly what needs to be achieved, and I don’t think you can find that kind of guidance anywhere else. We are set up with tools and knowledge that we can apply to our everyday lives. I think the coaches have done a marvelous job with this program. They listen to their clients.
Before finding The Mod I’ve had very brief experiences with therapy. I shared in The Betrayed how awful my experience was and how dangerous it can be to go to a therapist who really doesn’t know what they’re talking about. I’ve tried marriage support groups which turned out to not be helpful at all. Books and YouTube videos are okay, but nothing compared to The Mod. The only other help I’ve received was from The Betrayed which was amazingly helpful.
I’d just like to thank the coaches at The Mod for all of your dedication to the program and your clients. Its obvious that you all have such amazing big hearts and truly care about those you work with. This world needs more people like Savannah, Tim and Chloe! You all are saving marriages…saving children from broken homes. You all have inspired both my husband and I to one day help people with this addiction and with Betrayal Trauma. I will never be able to thank you all enough!!”
“When I found Warriors, before I joined, I was despondent, frustrated, sad, powerless. The money was very intimidating, but I knew I was worth it. Since Warriors I feel more empowered.
Doing BRoACH has been very empowering. Having the daily reinforcement from other women who get where I’ve been is huge. Tim’s consistent affirmations and support—hearing him call out addict behavior for what it is, knowing that he was that guy has been hugely impactful.
Corresponding with other group members plus consistent coach support is most important to me.
I have clarity around my boundaries and I feel especially SURE of them. After all the gaslighting, even though I intellectually understood that I was on the right track, there were many times I second-guessed myself and wondered if I was being too tough on him or expecting too much. The program/group reassured me over and over that I have NOT asked for too much.
I am still preparing a BRoACH for myself, and when this is done, I will have a clear and concise set of personal values to refer to which will also help me to set up a daily routine.
I love my accountability buddy and love knowing that she is there for me—it’s made me feel less alone.
The coaches are all unique and special in that they are abnormally direct and affirmative in their approach. They have a clear methodology that is concise and step-by-step. They pull no punches and there is no bullshit—yet the three of them are approachable, kind and supportive!
I love Chloe’s directness. She knows her stuff and she doesn’t candy coat anything. I love how sure she is about what she’s doing. She’s no softie–but she is caring and loving. I also love her sense of humor!
Savannah is super down to earth and easy to talk to. Her style is calm and approachable, and I love that she shares her personal experiences–this makes her easy to connect to!
Tim also has a no-nonsense approach that just cuts to the chase. I love how fiercely protective he is of the women in Warriors. He knows EXACTLY what BS we are dealing with and he calls it out in no uncertain terms. I absolutely love when he shines a spotlight on the addict behaviors that our partners are engaging in—it’s very redeeming and reassuring to hear this, particularly after years or decades of gaslighting and self-doubt. You always know where you stand with Tim! Also, he has some quirky, fun sayings that never fail to amuse!
The Mod’s Warriors program is uniquely and radically different from any other program in that it addresses betrayal trauma and addiction on multiple levels. This is the “HOW TO” program that gives people practical things to do. These things address the neurology behind addiction in a way that I’ve not seen before (i.e. the purge). These actions empower the betrayed in ways that therapy or self-help don’t. This program goes way beyond affirming the pain of the betrayed or defining the symptoms or what’s “normal;” while it does do those things, it puts the power back into the hands of the betrayed in a very concrete way.”