Take home program for recovering betrayed partners in our Rock Your Recovery Starter Bundle!
Dear Betrayed Partner,
In the midst of discovering your partner’s addiction, it’s easy to forget that you have your own recovery – no matter whether you stay or leave.
It is so important to commit to recovery now!
During COVID, addicts have been relapsing right and left with all the stress and isolation, and you deserve to begin healing!
Do you feel the constant anxiety, wondering if your partner is truly in recovery or is using again?
You’ve set boundaries only to have your sexually addicted partner walk all over them
You’ve found evidence and know what they are up to but your partner is in denial
You’ve set consequences, yet you just can’t pull the trigger
You’ve tried talking with your partner only for them to get angry and defensive and shut you down
You’ve explained porn is cheating to you, and your partner says it’s not cheating
You feel crazy every day thinking something is wrong with you
You feel you’re not enough, no matter how many things you do to become the “perfect” partner
If so, you’re in the right place, and we are SO grateful you’re here!
You are not alone in this.There are so many betrayed partners out there going through the exact same thing.
Often, betrayed partners end up making key mistakes in attempts to solve the problem of having a porn or sexually addicted spouse.
They often first go to a therapist – only for the therapist to call them co-dependent and enable the addict to keep using because “porn addiction doesn’t exist.”
When reaching out for therapy ends up being a fail (time and time again) you’re left feeling lost and even more hopeless and invalidated than before you began searching for help.
That is all horrific to experience on top of the trauma your porn and sexually addicted spouse has already inflicted.
At The Mod, we follow the Betrayal Trauma Model and you are 100% validated in your feelings and your reality.
Who Is This Program For?
The First Step Into Recovery Program is for betrayed partners of masturbation, pornography, and/or sex addicts that are ready to take action, participate, learn, be engaged, transform, and begin their healing journey.
Whether you’re on your First OR tenth step, this is for you!
You might be experiencing hopelessness, anger, frustration, shock, bitterness, and just want to start trusting again! If so, then This is for YOU!
You are ready to get asked the tough questions, reflect, gain insight, and take the necessary action you need to get the results you have been dying for!
You will be getting on LIVE coaching calls on zoom where Chloe & I will be addressing key topics AND handing out exercises and coaching you through them!
After the calls you have your Recovery Opportunities (homework) for that week and it’s expected you complete the work before the next zoom call.
“Before First Step Into Recovery I was feeling lost. Since being in First Step I am clearer headed about what I need to be doing for me and in creating boundaries. First Step helped me start to become surer of myself in terms of decision making and finding my strength again.”
The transformation you achieve in First Step…
The truth is: Recovery is a Daily Choice. It’s a choice that you make to stay healthy.
No matter how many articles or books you read about recovery, the truth is you need more. You aren’t going to be able to fully work your individual recovery without these key components:
Professionals to guide you
Why are those 3 things key?
Because without the right community, betrayal trauma gets worse.
Being with other women who are going through this very thing helps validate your experiences, enable you to begin to trust other people, and to start forming life-long safe friendships.
Without accountability, betrayal trauma can be almost impossible to recover from. Accountability is key in recovery because it makes you hold yourself to a higher standard when you know you have to check-in with others. You are responsible for your daily choices and actions.
Without professionals who’ve been there, you’re bound to fall into the biggest pitfalls of recovery. At The Mod, Chloe and Savannah (& our husbands) have fallen into some of the biggest pitfalls that can stall recovery for years, and we teach our clients to AVOID those pitfalls and streamline recovery.
In this 2 week program, Chloe & I will be teaching, coaching, & guiding you from feeling…
– Paralyzed with fear & uncertainty
To leave First Step with…
You and other betrayed partners who sign up will be joining our Pop-Up Facebook group to get support over the two weeks, and we will be keeping the group open for an extra 3 days in case you have questions as you continue to implement what you learn here!
You Will Leave First Step with:
— The knowledge to find a QUALIFIED therapist so that you can avoid retraumatization AND save time & money in your journey
— A Community of committed women by your side in this journey so that as you move forward you have support and friends with you!
— The ability to know when it’s time to leave versus stay so that you don’t waste any time for your healing or your families healing
— The ability to transform self-doubt into confidence so that you can be empowered with your recovery decisions
— A new found self-worth so that you are no longer scared and paralyzed but can take action
– Bonus Live Call On: How To Have a Separation That Can Save Your Marriage (call time to be announced in FB Group)
– Over 4 Hours of Bonus Calls from Knights & Warriors on Saving Your Marriage!
– 9 Secrets To Keep The Spark Alive When Baby Arrives
– 5 Relationship Coaching Tips
– Relationship Guide
– The 34 Types of Cheating
You Will Get Unstuck!
–You’ll be asked Key questions in coaching exercises so that you can gain insight.
–You will go from Paralyzed to having “Aha” Moments so that are you Motivated to Move forward!
You Will Gain Insight!
–You will connect the dots that you haven’t been able to connect before so that you CAN move forward confidently.
–You will see things with Clarity instead of confusion so that you can make informed decisions about your future!
You Will Take Action!
–You will be doing exercises each day that challenge you to dig deep so that you will WANT to move forward.
–You will make Changes each day so that you will have a successful recovery!
Your Coaches, Savannah Esposito & Chloe Sutherland
Kick-Ass Relationship & Recovery Coach. I run an intentional, intensive, high-end coaching practice with my co-coach Chloe that get clients results.
My marriage with Jak wasn’t always as amazing as it is today. In fact, when I discovered my husband’s porn addiction, we weren’t married, and things were already stressful. I chose to marry Jak knowing about his addiction, and I don’t regret it one bit!
Honestly: I wasn’t always great at recovery. I sucked at making boundaries, figuring out what consequences I would actually follow through with, and realizing that my husband’s recovery was HIS to own. Not mine.
But in our journey to The Recovery Lifestyle, we fell into the biggest pitfalls and we learned the key things you need to not only be successful as individuals but successful in relationship reconstruction.
While Jak and I were going through our journey I met Chloe, and we become fast friends in recovery. We each made mistakes, had successes, and we decided betrayed partners deserved more.
We didn’t have help in our recovery. We had to figure things out on our own. Betrayal Trauma wasn’t that popular back when we were in the trenches.
Chloe and I succeeded because we committed and figured out through tons of trial and error, hours of frustration, and endless conversations what works and what doesn’t. Now we teach YOU how to be successful like us!
Our holistic approach works.
It’s a step-by-step proven system to get you from trauma to freedom. We walk you through each step intentionally, so you don’t miss any of the keys to success!
Entering First Step Into Recovery I was feeling terrible, scared, hurt, angry and emotional. In First Step I was finally able to accept that my husband is a sex addict. I was able to learn about boundaries and consequences and I know I need recovery! My husband joined SSR as well, and I’ve accepted that SSA is in our lives.
The Mod understands all this as they’ve been through this themselves and are helpful and answer all our questions!
If you are even debating on this program, you need to do it! It will really kick start your recovery!!
Before The Mod I’d tried therapy and books but The Mod was nothing like anything I’d done before! This mini program was absolutely fantastic and helped me a lot!
Check out our Case Studies from last round!
Before joining First Step Into Recovery I was feeling pretty lost. Being in First Step has helped me get my husband into Become a Knight and SSR! I loved being able to connect to all the other women out there living this same nightmare and understanding that it’s not US going crazy, but to acknowledge that the SSA/BT are SERIOUS issues that can be healed!
From First Step I’ve already been able to recognize my triggers and start managing them, I’ve managed to also define my needs very clearly, and I see so much more clearly what the options are: recovery, recovery, recovery for the rest of our life.
If you’re thinking about joining this Program nothing compares to The Mod! The Mod rocks!
Before First Step I tried couples therapy (which was crap!), old school psychiatrist (which was crap!!), and honestly, The Mod gets to the point and is effective and informed.
I took this program and it’s my 60th birthday today and I just want to say thank you so much for the present I got from The Mod! I feel empowered and confident, especially with my man committed now!
Joining First Step Into Recovery, I came in feeling lost, pissed, confused and hopeless. In First Step all the exercises were helpful. Even when I didn’t think it pertained to me, they would come up in conversation with my husband and I already had knowledge on it!
I’d like to get into Warriors now that First Step is over.
In First Step I was able to take action. I was able to see that there is actual hope for us and recovery.
It was amazing to learn that there are other women out there in the same situation as I am. I’m not crazy for being upset that he has an addiction. It was amazing to have the coaches listen and to show me the way to go from here!
Because of First Step my husband is FINALLY getting the help we didn’t know he needed! I feel more myself than I have since I’ve had my children. I am invested in myself and am demanding that I get better for myself and my children whether my husband gives up or not.
The Mod is special because they’ve been there. They understand all the emotions and pain. The Mod isn’t trying to coach others based on what they “think” you’re going through. The Mod has insight. They can’t no judgement for all the emotions the betrayed and the addicted are feeling.
If you’re on the fence about this program, DO IT! I haven’t been searching long for help and I was so lucky to have found The Mod when I did! Savannah is so relatable. It feels like I am listening to my friends giving me advice instead of a therapist who “thinks” they know what’s best. Savannah and Chloe say what they mean and mean what they say. They are confident in themselves and in their clients!
Before finding The Mod I’d only found out my husband was an addict in April. I knew he struggled with it for many years, but I didn’t know he could be addicted and what it does to the brain and what it does emotionally.
I am so extremely thankful for this opportunity to finally get both me and my husband on the way to recovery!
When I joined First Step Into Recovery, I was feeling like I had come a long way in getting my mind and emotions stable but had a long way to go in getting back to functioning in the real world. When First Step ended, I felt excited because I have my head up on the journey ahead with Warriors! The fear of the unknown is lifted! First Step was interactive.
First Step is NOT about going to a class and listening to a talk. It’s about getting knowledge, doing what you have been given and taking action! The knowledge that is available and the encouragement in First Step was SO valuable!
With First Step I am investing in full recovery for myself instead of settling for just getting by. I can now see the possibility of my life being active and energized again, see myself for the real person I am, and I realize now there are things that can be done differently.
You have a team working together and have your husbands on your team. I know how women think, feel and function with this addiction but I want to know how men come through this successful. I want to know their struggles and what they go through and how the men that overcome this addiction do it. Being in the dark about men’s struggles has been a hindrance for me. Also, you don’t hold back truth and knowledge. All of you put it on the table in clear view.
If you are on the fence, if what you have done hasn’t helped or moved you to the next level in where you need healing, then please don’t give up! It is hard going it alone, and we were meant to keep moving higher! Before The Mod I did lots of research and read books and talked to friends who gave all they had for the first year. Second year we done 1:1 mentoring which was lifesaving and what we needed at that time to get stable. We got into groups which was good for communication. I desired more knowledge and understanding about what happened to us, why, and where to go from here. The Mod has the knowledge of this addiction and answers that I have not found elsewhere.
Leaving First Step I am determined to get to a new normal and will fight this addiction and trauma!