by wraemsanders | Jul 17, 2019 | Family & Parenting
Kids need a lot from us as they grow. They don’t always realize it, but we do. We see it in their faces when they have had a bad day and need a hug. Their eyes show what they don’t say. When our child falls and skins a knee, they might want to act tough but yet, the...
by Savannah | Jul 15, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
When you are recovering from porn addiction and betrayal trauma, the importance of getting expert help cannot be understated. Making your priority number one is the way to overcome your addiction and trauma and reconstruct your new relationship. One of the things that...
by stimothybrown | Jul 15, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
Because of the very nature of what I do, I often have the time, opportunity, and privilege to work with some of the most remarkable women in the world; notwithstanding my wonderful colleagues that I routinely work very closely with (don’t let that go to your head). I...
by stimothybrown | Jul 15, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
Gaslighting! What is it? Well, it’s not lighting gas for a stove, a fireplace, or a grill if that’s what you’re thinking. If you go look it up on the internet, Google will yield about 3.9 million results. Probably 3.9 of those are correct. That’s a gross exaggeration,...
by wraemsanders | Jul 3, 2019 | Family & Parenting
Our children watch and learn a lot from us. They watch us even when we don’t realize it. When we don’t handle our anger well, they see it. When we express anxiety over our weight, they pick up on that. They also see how we treat others. If they watch their...
by wraemsanders | Jul 3, 2019 | Family & Parenting
As parents, it’s hard to watch our kids make mistakes. I’ve watched my kids make plenty. One hates homework and often forgets to hand it in, even after my many reminders. I remind him every single morning before he leaves the house about it. I even tried...
by wraemsanders | Jul 1, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
Everyone deserves love- to find someone to love and to be loved. For some of us, this can be a difficult concept. There are people who are out there with intentions to hurt us because they are hurting themselves. They want to destroy others and don’t care about...
by chloesutherland2000 | Jul 1, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
“Until rape is taken seriously… No movement is going to fix it anyway.” – Lindsay Lace Interview with a Model (Part 1) Interview By: Chloe Sutherland Interview Subject: Lindsay Lace (name may be changed to protect subject) Age: 19 Profession:...
by Savannah | Jun 27, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
Coaching 101: In the future, if there are issues that you and your partner need to discuss, write them all down. When both of you are in a good mood, pull out your lists, share them and pick one topic to talk about. By doing this, both of you can see what you each...
by Savannah | Jun 22, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
When people suffer from porn addiction and betrayal trauma, their odds at getting help and recovering are low because porn addiction and betrayal trauma often are not well understood by traditional therapists, and the debate is still out on whether or not porn...
by wraemsanders | Jun 22, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
Our doctors are incredibly busy. They usually have a long list of patients to see each day with limited time to see them. There are also orders to put in, emails and phone calls to return, and don’t forget lunch. Doctors have to eat, too. It’s not that we...
by stimothybrown | Jun 22, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
Honestly, the whole premise that becomes the butt of so many jokes “it doesn’t take a brain scientist”, isn’t exactly true. Unless you are one, you– like myself– fit into this category of “Dummies.” When it comes to...
by wraemsanders | Jun 22, 2019 | Careers, Mental Health & Psychology
Everyone has bursts of insecurity. These feelings can hit when starting a new job, school, after a large weight loss or gain, maybe even after a haircut that you aren’t sure that you should have gotten. People can even feel insecure about their background,...
by wraemsanders | Jun 22, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
Life Throws Curve-balls Adult life can get pretty mundane. You’re going to work, sometimes school, going out with friends, have a significant other in your life and maybe a child, and BOOM. Curve-ball. Plot twist. Major life change out of nowhere. That life...
by Guest Post | Jun 20, 2019 | Guest Post Days, Sex & Relationships
Do you think yoga is a tad overrated? Well, you might change your opinion once you read this article. Yoga, as you know, has so much goodness to offer. From, weight loss to heart health, it does it all. But, we bet you did not know that it can amp up your sex life....
by wraemsanders | Jun 19, 2019 | Family & Parenting
Summer break usually means simplicity. To many kids (mine included), it means sleeping in, late breakfasts and fun with friends. Some kids go to summer programs, on trips and do other expensive things. As a kid, I usually read, played outside and watched TV. My...
by stimothybrown | Jun 17, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
Well, to be blunt about it, you can’t. You don’t Gain it back, for you don’t have it to gain. It’s gone. You have to do it like the late John Houseman would say: “[you] have to do it the old fashion way; [you] earn it”. This isn’t a “rescue” mission. It isn’t even a...
by wraemsanders | Jun 17, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
When we get married, we believe that we are vowing to be with our one and only true love forever. We believe that we are with our soulmate, the one we were meant to be with. What happens if we realize this person isn’t our soulmate? Is the image we had of love...
by Savannah | Jun 17, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
Whether it’s clients, potential clients, or my friends in relationships, I’ve been having conversations the past couple weeks where a lot of them reveal that they’ve caught their partner cheating. Whether they found out through sex, caught them in...
by Savannah | Jun 17, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
When in a long-term committed relationship, or in a marriage, often couples end up struggling along the way with connection, communication, and trust. At The Modern Mr. and Mrs. when working with clients, the first place we start is with trust. Without trust, you...
by Savannah | Jun 11, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
Micro-Trust is extremely important when healing from porn addiction and betrayal trauma. Even for couples going through other forms of infidelity, learning the importance of micro-trust can be the difference of saving your marriage or getting a divorce. Now, that you...
by Savannah | Jun 7, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
Comment below if this happens in your relationship or marriage! If so, check out my Relationship Evolution program where I help couples struggling with trust, communication and sexual intimacy gain the love and connection they’ve been craving to see if we are a...
by wraemsanders | Jun 3, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
Commitment takes more than just cute selfies, a status change on Facebook and PDA. It takes communication, time and trust. When the trust is broken, it may or may not be able to be repaired. The repair can take months or even years to occur, and sometimes it...
by wraemsanders | May 25, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
Forgiveness can be a difficult topic in relationships- whether it is a friendship that has been marred by a lie, long-term relationship torn apart by infidelity or a marriage that may be cut short by one partner not wanting to be in the marriage any longer. Feelings...
by Heiddi | May 25, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
Before answering this question, let’s take a good look at the word forgiveness. According to Dictonary.com, forgiveness is the act of forgiving. Digging deeper, to forgive means “to grant pardon for an offense.” An alternate definition is “to cease to feel resentment...
by wraemsanders | May 22, 2019 | Family & Parenting, Uncategorized
Weekends can be the perfect amount of time to get away. Long enough to get some fun things done, but you’re not gone so long that everyone gets bored. Last year, my husband and I took our three kids to St. Louis, MO. We had been there before on a wedding...
by stimothybrown | May 22, 2019 | Family & Parenting
Just over five years ago, the New York City Department of Health issued a warning about an outbreak of Measles in northern Manhattan and the Bronx and urged all New Yorkers to make sure they are vaccinated against Measles. It highlighted what we are experiencing today...
by wraemsanders | May 22, 2019 | Family & Parenting
Most people plan to have kids- when, how many, and how far apart. Sometimes this plan works out, but not all the time. My husband and I had a plan, but it went slightly off the rails. We planned for two-we had three. We didn’t have an exact spacing idea- all...
by wraemsanders | May 22, 2019 | Family & Parenting
Pregnancy is full of emotions- happiness, wonder, and even a bit of anxiety. Some pregnancies are easy from start to finish, and others are absolutely awful- extreme morning sickness, pre-eclampsia, and other issues that make it almost impossible to get to 40 weeks....
by chloesutherland2000 | May 20, 2019 | Family & Parenting, Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
Quote – “Sex isn’t supposed to necessarily be about love but it isn’t just supposed to be a complete physicality either.” Interview By: Chloe Sutherland Interview Subject: Lindsay Lace (name may be changed to protect subject) Age: 19...
by chloesutherland2000 | May 20, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
I’m sure most of you clicked into this article thinking it’s about orgasming, but bear with me a moment…. Because almost everyone has a OH moment when they meet someone new. I bet it’s just not what you thought in the traditional OH sense. To...
by stimothybrown | May 20, 2019 | Family & Parenting, Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
I mean, why not. It seems to be quite the topic in the national news and conversation spotlight lately. Roe v. Wade Let’s start with Roe v. Wade, a landmark United States Supreme Court decision in 1973 set the stage for what is the crux of so many arguments,...
by Guest Post | May 12, 2019 | #RealLifeConfessions, Mental Health & Psychology
Dear Rapist, It’s been six years and you still haunt me. I am happy now, life is good, yet when my eyes close, there you are… terrorizing me in my nightmares. Six years ago I woke up to you raping me…. and to think I was debating on whether or not to...
by stimothybrown | May 11, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
When I heard it, I was like, “Say what?” I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. But my immediate response was “What the @#$% does that mean?”. I went on to say “What do you mean being too honest”? And he went on to say...
by wraemsanders | May 11, 2019 | Family & Parenting, Mental Health & Psychology
Parenting is like an extreme sport. You can prepare for it, but there is no way of keeping score. Your ego might get bruised a bit, and it’s definitely tiring. Kids can and will test your patience on a daily basis. Some nights, you will go to sleep wondering if...
by Guest Post | May 9, 2019 | Family & Parenting, Guest Post Days
A few decades ago, many people were still getting used to the idea of using a surrogate. Fast forward to 2019, and surrogacy, an assisted reproductive process to help more people have the families they desire, is much more prevalent across the country. The Council...
by Savannah | May 6, 2019 | Family & Parenting, Sex & Relationships
When you become a parent, you can sometimes forget about being a spouse. In the very beginning you have a little tiny human being that depends on you guys 24/7! You’re lacking sleep, constantly taking care of the little one, barely eating, and showering when lucky....
by stimothybrown | Apr 27, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
Well, usually this is hers. However, sometimes it could be his. Critical Mass: Core Meltdown (His) defines “critical mass” and “core meltdown”, so I would highly encourage you to go read about it. This is what you need to do right now. When you reach critical mass,...
by stimothybrown | Apr 27, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
Well, usually it is his. However, sometimes it could be hers. I don’t want to turn this into a discussion about nuclear reactors except to make a point of understanding what is meant by “critical mass” and “core meltdown” in a relationship. If you find yourself having...
by wraemsanders | Apr 27, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
Chronic illness can be difficult to comprehend. Emotions can run anywhere from relief (knowing what is wrong, especially if you are diagnosed after a long period of symptoms) to grieving the perceived loss of what your life was before the diagnosis and may not be in...
