by stimothybrown | Sep 16, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
Is he ready? Let’s take a look at it and see. When we experience Betrayal Trauma, oftentimes it becomes a real battle to get our addicted Partner to come to terms with their addiction. They really would rather you just leave them alone. But you can’t and you’re not...
by stimothybrown | Sep 16, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
What does that even mean anyway? I’m not talking about Webster’s Dictionary definition of it, which by the way is feeling sorrow, regret, or penitence; mournful, sad; inspiring sorrow, pity, scorn, or ridicule, pitiful. The first definition surrounds a state of...
by stimothybrown | Sep 16, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
OK, so I don’t watch the ABC reality television program The Bachelor or The Bachelorette because quite frankly, in my view, it is a mockery of relationships and marriage. But I did get sucked into going back and watching Season 15 of the Bachelorette for reasons I...
by stimothybrown | Aug 31, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
What are the Indicators of Success? What are the indicators of achievement? Those are some very interesting questions. Almost unequivocally, every single person who is addicted, and also those who suffer from betrayal trauma, has been wounded. And most were wounded...
by stimothybrown | Aug 31, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
We often talk about boundaries & consequences, and it is often this enigma that defies understanding. Partly because of what little understanding there is, but also partly because it is not explained very well. This is a brief on the subject because it is a...
by Savannah | Aug 21, 2019 | Careers
So for those who’ve followed us, you know we’ve gone through so many changes and transformations since 2017. Part of that is the natural evolution of a business, and other changes are from the insane knowledge I’ve learned from some AMAZING programs!...
by stimothybrown | Aug 17, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
I remember a comedian some years ago, whose name I won’t mention because he was just such a vile, foul mouthed, human being. I recall thinking everything he said was hysterical at the time, but as I’ve aged, I don’t necessarily find most of his material all that funny...
by stimothybrown | Aug 12, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
That seems to be the compelling questions over Masturbation. Is there such a thing? There is a whole lot of debate surrounding this very subject. So, dig in, take a look, and add clarity so that you can make an informed decision, and decide for yourself. A Necessary...
by stimothybrown | Aug 3, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
NATURAL CONSEQUENCES Recently I was reminded of “indirect consequences”. For almost everything in life, we have “natural consequences” to bear for our mindlessness. I have written about these before. Forget your jacket, you’re cold. Forget your...
by wraemsanders | Aug 3, 2019 | Careers, Mental Health & Psychology
According to Merriam Webster’s Dictionary, the definition of perfection is as follows: the quality or state of being perfect, such as a: freedom from fault or defect, flawlessness b: maturity c: the quality or state of being saintly 2. an exemplification of...
by stimothybrown | Aug 3, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
What I am about to tell you is no laughing matter. I’m quite certain opinions will vary and be as diverse as justice is disproportionately served. I want to share with you Bryan’s Story because it demonstrates (how poignant with emphasis on “demon”): The...
by Savannah and 1 more | Aug 3, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
Savannah and I began talking about how horrible it is to read and hear stories about those trying to get help, only to be hurt by the professional they sought help from. We both realized it was something that needed to be addressed. So, we decided to work together and...
by wraemsanders | Jul 31, 2019 | Family & Parenting
Starting The Process Mental health can be very difficult to talk about. In some families, it may not be. It may be a very open topic due to several members having diagnoses, working in the mental health community, or both. My house has a combination- I’ve spent...
by stimothybrown | Jul 29, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
If I had a nickel for every time I’ve (we’ve) witnessed a Betrayed Partner ask this question, I could be trotting the globe in a state of blissful retirement right about now. WHY DO THEY ASK? When a Betrayed Partner becomes so distraught over their betrayal, their...
by stimothybrown | Jul 29, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
Once again, what started out as a simple question has evolved into a full blown discussion. I was working with a young sex addict; a young adult teenage woman. You do the math (that means she had to be between 18 – 19 years old). Yes, just as much as there is no...
by wraemsanders | Jul 17, 2019 | Family & Parenting
Kids need a lot from us as they grow. They don’t always realize it, but we do. We see it in their faces when they have had a bad day and need a hug. Their eyes show what they don’t say. When our child falls and skins a knee, they might want to act tough but yet, the...
by Savannah | Jul 15, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
When you are recovering from porn addiction and betrayal trauma, the importance of getting expert help cannot be understated. Making your priority number one is the way to overcome your addiction and trauma and reconstruct your new relationship. One of the things that...
by stimothybrown | Jul 15, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
Because of the very nature of what I do, I often have the time, opportunity, and privilege to work with some of the most remarkable women in the world; notwithstanding my wonderful colleagues that I routinely work very closely with (don’t let that go to your head). I...
by stimothybrown | Jul 15, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
Gaslighting! What is it? Well, it’s not lighting gas for a stove, a fireplace, or a grill if that’s what you’re thinking. If you go look it up on the internet, Google will yield about 3.9 million results. Probably 3.9 of those are correct. That’s a gross exaggeration,...
by wraemsanders | Jul 3, 2019 | Family & Parenting
Our children watch and learn a lot from us. They watch us even when we don’t realize it. When we don’t handle our anger well, they see it. When we express anxiety over our weight, they pick up on that. They also see how we treat others. If they watch their...
by wraemsanders | Jul 3, 2019 | Family & Parenting
As parents, it’s hard to watch our kids make mistakes. I’ve watched my kids make plenty. One hates homework and often forgets to hand it in, even after my many reminders. I remind him every single morning before he leaves the house about it. I even tried...
by wraemsanders | Jul 1, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
Everyone deserves love- to find someone to love and to be loved. For some of us, this can be a difficult concept. There are people who are out there with intentions to hurt us because they are hurting themselves. They want to destroy others and don’t care about...
by chloesutherland2000 | Jul 1, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
“Until rape is taken seriously… No movement is going to fix it anyway.” – Lindsay Lace Interview with a Model (Part 1) Interview By: Chloe Sutherland Interview Subject: Lindsay Lace (name may be changed to protect subject) Age: 19 Profession:...
by Savannah | Jun 27, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
Coaching 101: In the future, if there are issues that you and your partner need to discuss, write them all down. When both of you are in a good mood, pull out your lists, share them and pick one topic to talk about. By doing this, both of you can see what you each...
by Savannah | Jun 22, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
When people suffer from porn addiction and betrayal trauma, their odds at getting help and recovering are low because porn addiction and betrayal trauma often are not well understood by traditional therapists, and the debate is still out on whether or not porn...
by wraemsanders | Jun 22, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
Our doctors are incredibly busy. They usually have a long list of patients to see each day with limited time to see them. There are also orders to put in, emails and phone calls to return, and don’t forget lunch. Doctors have to eat, too. It’s not that we...
by stimothybrown | Jun 22, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
Honestly, the whole premise that becomes the butt of so many jokes “it doesn’t take a brain scientist”, isn’t exactly true. Unless you are one, you– like myself– fit into this category of “Dummies.” When it comes to...
by wraemsanders | Jun 22, 2019 | Careers, Mental Health & Psychology
Everyone has bursts of insecurity. These feelings can hit when starting a new job, school, after a large weight loss or gain, maybe even after a haircut that you aren’t sure that you should have gotten. People can even feel insecure about their background,...
by wraemsanders | Jun 22, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
Life Throws Curve-balls Adult life can get pretty mundane. You’re going to work, sometimes school, going out with friends, have a significant other in your life and maybe a child, and BOOM. Curve-ball. Plot twist. Major life change out of nowhere. That life...
by Guest Post | Jun 20, 2019 | Guest Post Days, Sex & Relationships
Do you think yoga is a tad overrated? Well, you might change your opinion once you read this article. Yoga, as you know, has so much goodness to offer. From, weight loss to heart health, it does it all. But, we bet you did not know that it can amp up your sex life....
by wraemsanders | Jun 19, 2019 | Family & Parenting
Summer break usually means simplicity. To many kids (mine included), it means sleeping in, late breakfasts and fun with friends. Some kids go to summer programs, on trips and do other expensive things. As a kid, I usually read, played outside and watched TV. My...
by stimothybrown | Jun 17, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
Well, to be blunt about it, you can’t. You don’t Gain it back, for you don’t have it to gain. It’s gone. You have to do it like the late John Houseman would say: “[you] have to do it the old fashion way; [you] earn it”. This isn’t a “rescue” mission. It isn’t even a...
by wraemsanders | Jun 17, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
When we get married, we believe that we are vowing to be with our one and only true love forever. We believe that we are with our soulmate, the one we were meant to be with. What happens if we realize this person isn’t our soulmate? Is the image we had of love...
by Savannah | Jun 17, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
Whether it’s clients, potential clients, or my friends in relationships, I’ve been having conversations the past couple weeks where a lot of them reveal that they’ve caught their partner cheating. Whether they found out through sex, caught them in...
by Savannah | Jun 17, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
When in a long-term committed relationship, or in a marriage, often couples end up struggling along the way with connection, communication, and trust. At The Modern Mr. and Mrs. when working with clients, the first place we start is with trust. Without trust, you...
by Savannah | Jun 11, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
Micro-Trust is extremely important when healing from porn addiction and betrayal trauma. Even for couples going through other forms of infidelity, learning the importance of micro-trust can be the difference of saving your marriage or getting a divorce. Now, that you...
by Savannah | Jun 7, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
Comment below if this happens in your relationship or marriage! If so, check out my Relationship Evolution program where I help couples struggling with trust, communication and sexual intimacy gain the love and connection they’ve been craving to see if we are a...
by wraemsanders | Jun 3, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
Commitment takes more than just cute selfies, a status change on Facebook and PDA. It takes communication, time and trust. When the trust is broken, it may or may not be able to be repaired. The repair can take months or even years to occur, and sometimes it...
by wraemsanders | May 25, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
Forgiveness can be a difficult topic in relationships- whether it is a friendship that has been marred by a lie, long-term relationship torn apart by infidelity or a marriage that may be cut short by one partner not wanting to be in the marriage any longer. Feelings...
by Heiddi | May 25, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
Before answering this question, let’s take a good look at the word forgiveness. According to Dictonary.com, forgiveness is the act of forgiving. Digging deeper, to forgive means “to grant pardon for an offense.” An alternate definition is “to cease to feel resentment...
