by Savvy Esposito | Jan 10, 2026 | Men's Corner, Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
When you’re thinking about getting treatment and help for sex addiction, porn addiction, and betrayal trauma, you might not know what actually works. Navigating the recovery journey can be incredibly challenging, especially when faced with professionals who may...
by Savvy Esposito | Mar 8, 2025 | Becoming a Coach & Building Your Practice, Careers, Mental Health & Psychology
Over the past decade, life coaching has been rising as a career. Now, that partly could be the low barrier to entry, or it could be that coaching truly does offer something unique and valuable. I personally believe that coaching offers something worth while to the...
by Savvy Esposito | Apr 28, 2024 | Becoming a Coach & Building Your Practice, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
When you think about coaching, often you’ll think about meeting face to face, over a zoom call or maybe even a phone call. But did you ever think about coaching over email? Well, email coaching exists, and it’s my favorite method of coaching. The benefits...
by Savvy Esposito | Nov 22, 2023 | Becoming a Coach & Building Your Practice, Mental Health & Psychology, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Vet your help before hiring them. In the recovery journey, you want to make sure you’re truly finding the best fit recovery professionals that align with your goals and personality. In today’s video we cover how to vet your help and be confident...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 17, 2022 | Mental Health & Psychology, Savvy Answers, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
From a Betrayed Partner with an SSA + IA Spouse Q: I have been neglecting my kids at some times. I don’t have the energy to play and laugh with them like I used to. I look a freaking mess. My house looks so messy as well. I perform at work just fine don’t even have...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 17, 2022 | Mental Health & Psychology, Savvy Answers, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
From a Betrayed Partner with an SSA + IA Spouse Q: What is your best advice for a woman who was betrayed and have so much to give. She is also a loving mother, Daughter and sister. I can’t let him take my joy and energy back. I can’t let him hurt me so much. Should I...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 17, 2022 | Mental Health & Psychology, Savvy Answers, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
From a Betrayed Partner with an SSA + IA Spouse Q: What are the healthy boundaries? You mention something about not playing the divorce card yet. But I truly don’t know if I can be part of his recovery with ups and downs. It will hurt me so much to find out he watch...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 17, 2022 | Men's Corner, Mental Health & Psychology, Savvy Answers, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
From a Betrayed Partner with an SSA + IA Spouse Q: How do I really know my husband has the right therapist and if it is actually going to help or prepare him to tackle his triggers and weakness. I’m afraid he is just shit playing this to play the victim as he has...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 17, 2022 | Mental Health & Psychology, Savvy Answers, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
From a Betrayed Partner with an SSA + IA Spouse Q: On the article Addicted Brain for Dummies talks about how it is similar to the movie Beautiful Mind. I’m afraid his porn addiction will always be there even after recovery. It breaks my heart and I’m reconsidering if...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 17, 2022 | Men's Corner, Savvy Answers, Sex & Relationships
From a person not struggling with addiction, infidelity or betrayal in their relationship: Q: What do you suggest couples do if they find themselves stuck in difficult arguments/quarrels? Savvy Answers: Firstly, couples will have times they disagree throughout...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 17, 2022 | Men's Corner, Savvy Answers, Sex & Relationships
From a person not struggling with addiction, infidelity or betrayal in their relationship: Q: What advice would you give for couples to live a happy life? Savvy Answers: Given how broad this question is, I’ll give a general answer. While happiness can be nice,...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 17, 2022 | Savvy Answers, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
From a Betrayed Partner with an SSA Spouse: Q: A year after discovering my husbands addiction I have started to get extremely uncomfortable during sex and foreplay, to the point of asking him to stop. Is this normal? Savvy Answers: This question gives me reason to ask...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 17, 2022 | Savvy Answers, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
From a Betrayed Partner with an IA + SSA Spouse: Q: How do you know when is it time to give up on the marriage? Savvy Answers: When to give up on your marriage is one of the top questions I get asked. To begin the conversation you have to ask yourself these following...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 16, 2022 | Savvy Answers, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
From a betrayed partner with a SSA + IA partner Q: How do you start to get over the feeling of “not having been enough”? Savvy Answers: To answer your question, I want to say you’re asking the wrong question. The reality is you are more than enough. However,...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 16, 2022 | Savvy Answers, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
From a betrayed partner with a SSA + IA partner Q: Once trust has been broken so completely, how is it possible to stay together? Savvy Answers: If you are in the beginning stages of recovery (0-6 months post discovery) and you have not gotten any professional help,...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 8, 2022 | Savvy Answers, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
From a Betrayed partner with an SSA spouse: Q: My husband of 12 years whom is addicted to Porn told me today that he would be fine (no issues) if I were to talk online to guys, have cyber sex you name it. As long as we don’t ever meet up in person. How am I supposed...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 8, 2022 | Savvy Answers, Sex & Relationships
From a person not struggling with addiction, infidelity or betrayal in their relationship: Q: How can you figure out where your partner enjoys being touched, kissed, and how they like to be touched and kissed? The Savvy Answer: There are a couple of ways to...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 8, 2022 | Savvy Answers, Sex & Relationships
From a person not struggling with addiction, infidelity or betrayal in their relationship: Q: What should a partner be mindful of when addressing things with their partner (whether it’s day to day aspects or negotiating or tough topics)? The Savvy Answer: Being...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 8, 2022 | Savvy Answers, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
From a Betrayed partner with an SSA spouse: Q: As an LCPC I am very familiar with addiction. I have always seen a difference between ‘substance use addiction’ and others (gambling, video games sex porn). The biggest struggle I find I have is that I...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 8, 2022 | Savvy Answers, Sex & Relationships
Q: How can couples make the best of their time together so that they enhance their connection each and every day? **This was a question submitted from someone who is not struggling with addiction, infidelity, or betrayal, and so my response is geared towards healthy...
by Savvy Esposito | Jul 10, 2022 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Unfortunately too many betrayed partners get slapped with the label “codependent” or “co-addict” and it’s just not true (in most cases). Patrick Carnes developed the codependency model where it’s presumed that the partner of the...
by Savvy Esposito | Jul 4, 2022 | Sex & Relationships
Arguments are part of any healthy relationship. They are unavoidable, and can actually be a positive aspect of your relationship. Arguments show that you care, are passionate, and are not scared to speak your point of view. But, not all arguments are equal. Some...
by Savvy Esposito | Feb 8, 2022 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
“How long does recovery take and what are my long-term options?” That is the number one question I get asked from prospective clients going through betrayal trauma and sexual addiction. Below, I’m going to breakdown the various recovery paths and...
by Savvy Esposito | Nov 4, 2020 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
When people suffer from porn addiction and betrayal trauma, their odds of getting help and recovering are oftentimes low because porn addiction and betrayal trauma are not well understood by traditional therapists, and the debate is still out on whether or not porn...
by Savvy Esposito | May 11, 2020 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Oftentimes the SSA™ (Sexual Stimulation Addict – masturbation, porn, and/or sex addict) will not fully commit and do a “fake out” in terms of recovery and can decieve their betrayed partner. In this video Chloe and I discuss the ways that the...
by Savvy Esposito | Apr 22, 2020 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Porn addiction is a real addiction, and 1 in 3 guys between ages 15 & 50 are suffering porn induced erectile dysfunction because of it. Yes, porn can break your dick… so if you want to not break your dick, listen up! Here are signs porn could be a problem for you...
by stimothybrown | Apr 20, 2020 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Why do people lie? Why do we all lie? That should conjure up some interesting conversations. Let’s not pretend that we all don’t do it in one form or another to one extent or the other at one time or another when the right opportunity, or should we say situation,...
by Savvy Esposito | Apr 20, 2020 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Often partners who have had their partner have an affair or have a porn or sex addiction will end up with Betrayal Trauma – NOT Co-dependancy. Betrayal Trauma is a NORMAL reaction to betrayal. You’re NOT crazy! You’re 100% Valid in Your Feelings! You might be...
by Savvy Esposito | Apr 16, 2020 | Family & Parenting, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
This post may piss people off, and that’s 100% fine. In fact, we all should get pissed. We all should realize that what I am about to discuss needs to be brought to light. The Big Ugly Truth: Your Kids Know. Your kids are aware something isn’t right. They know that...
by stimothybrown | Apr 16, 2020 | Family & Parenting, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
The first real wide sweeping pandemic to affect the world to this magnitude is proving to be a formidable health threat to overcome. We haven’t seen these kinds of fatalities from a pandemic in a hundred years since World War I. The only difference between a pandemic...
by Savvy Esposito | Mar 24, 2020 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
It’s so common in today’s society for men to attack people who aren’t a fan of porn in their relationship. It’s why lots of women confide in their female friends if there’s a porn issue in their relationship. But these women are not expecting their female...
by chloesutherland2000 | Mar 12, 2020 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Ah, the penis. Every other person in the world has one. Yet, to many it’s a mystery. They don’t understand what it is or how it communicates to you – even if you have one! Many don’t know anything about it other than to keep it clean. So...
by stimothybrown | Mar 10, 2020 | Family & Parenting
When my children were younger, toddlers, I recall how much anxiety it caused me when we went to the lake, the ocean, or even the pool. I found myself watching not only my children, but others’ children too. My head was constantly moving back and forth, counting,...
by stimothybrown | Jan 31, 2020 | Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
As I’ve researched the human brain over the years, what lies beneath the gray/grey matter that is the human brain, there are some very fascinating details about it that we’ve only discovered within the last decade. Everything we knew before was just wrong. We’re just...
by chloesutherland2000 | Jan 23, 2020 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
We admitted we were powerless over sexaholism – that our lives had become unmanageable. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. Made a...
by stimothybrown | Jan 20, 2020 | Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
90 Days! So what’s so special about it? I often speak of the coveted “90 Days”. We all do. Some call it “90 days of sobriety”. Others call it “90 days of abstinence”. I call it “90 days of healing”. After all, that’s really what it all boils down to and we are talking...
by stimothybrown | Jan 14, 2020 | Sex & Relationships
With 2020 well under way, I felt this would be a great time to provide for you some valuable lessons in what “genuine intimacy” really looks like. So without further ado, with Valentine’s Day just a month away, here is the list. WARNING Some of these...
by chloesutherland2000 | Jan 6, 2020 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Lots of people have heard the term “White Knuckling,” but do you know what it truly means? The definition is: someone who is avoiding recovery by doing minimal efforts to appear to others that they are achieving recovery, all the while, not truly learning...
by Savvy Esposito | Dec 31, 2019 | Careers
I cannot believe we are at the end of 2019. I am honestly SO happy to have made it through this year. It’s been a very big, challening, and at times painful year. In this post I am going to be addressing me and my husband’s journey in recovery, the goals...
by stimothybrown | Dec 23, 2019 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Actually, “counciling” isn’t even a word. But I utilize it to illustrate a point. I view much of what so-called premarital counseling is as nothing more than various miscellaneous and sundry council members with words of advice often fraught with (mis)information with...
