by stimothybrown | Nov 25, 2019 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
I had been eyeing this car for a very long time. It solidified all of my hopes, dreams, and goals that truly represented and exemplified what I thought was pure success. It was coveted by my friends, colleagues, and acquaintances alike. It was, “Man, you are so damned...
by chloesutherland2000 | Nov 25, 2019 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Unpopular opinion – sometimes the only way to recover is to do something drastic. This does not necessarily mean that it’s the only thing to do, or that you should do something different for the sake of doing different. Sometimes recovering from SSA...
by Guest Post | Nov 22, 2019 | #RealLifeConfessions, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
He was tired. My husband told me he was Tired. It was starting to get old though. You know that sort of tired where he won’t touch you for days and you start to question yourself as a woman? You know, where you are going crazy because the work stress passes, and...
by Savvy Esposito | Nov 16, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Being able to stand up for yourself is huge when you’ve constantly been beaten down by lines like, “Its just porn, get over it.” “I’m not cheating, fuck every guy needs release.” “Maybe if you put out...
by Savvy Esposito | Nov 11, 2019 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
At The Mod, we have couples coming from all over the place seeking help regarding their partner’s SSA (Sexual Stimulation Addiction – Masturbation, Pornography, and/or Sex addiction) and their own Betrayal Trauma. Most couples make the mistake of thinking...
by Heiddi | Nov 4, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
When most people think of fighting, they think of a boxing ring with two heavyweight fighters in opposite corners coming out ready to swing. This can also happen in our relationships, where we are so invested in what we believe, we end up like those two boxers....
by chloesutherland2000 | Nov 2, 2019 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Let me preface this by saying that there are 11 different types of Intimacy. 10 of which stand alone, but in and of themselves and their creation in the different intimacy pillars. Sexually Intimacy, takes 4 or more types of Intimacy to come into creation. Sex...
by chloesutherland2000 | Oct 30, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
People LOVE zombies and zombie movies. This is just a fact. If they didn’t then zombie TV shows wouldn’t continue to stay on the air long after the plots run out. However, it’s purely speculation that there will never be a zombie apocalypse. Not the...
by stimothybrown | Oct 30, 2019 | Family & Parenting, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Once we get to Labor Day weekend, it often marks the end of Summer for us all. The day after, we begin to see signs of the upcoming holiday season as merchants rush to the starting line as if they can get a head start on seasonal revenues. After all, that is what the...
by Guest Post | Oct 24, 2019 | Guest Post Days, Sex & Relationships
It’s no secret that divorce is one of the most traumatic events you can go through in life, from the early days of deciding to split, through to the legalities and then, after the dust has settled, piecing your life back together again. This is especially true if you...
by Savvy Esposito | Oct 21, 2019 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Whether a couple is struggling with finances, communication, sex, intimacy, trust, or bringing back the spark after a 16 year marriage with kids leaving for college, many couples often don’t seek help for their issues until 6 years down the line. As a...
by stimothybrown | Oct 8, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Virtually every major in college has a requirement for at least one economics class in order to graduate. And generally speaking, it is your introductory course, commonly referred to as Economics 101, or Econ for short. One of the fundamental concepts we learn in Econ...
by Savvy Esposito | Sep 30, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
When recovering from SSA (Sexual Stimulation Addiction – masturbation, pornography, and/or sex addiction) and Betrayal Trauma, there are going to be things that get in the way. Many times, when we talk with clients and potential clients struggling with SSA & BT...
by stimothybrown | Sep 30, 2019 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
What choice do I have? Let’s examine that word closely and expand on what it really means to us. “…an act of selecting or making a decision when faced with two or more possibilities…” SSA = Sexual Stimulation Addiction (i.e. masturbation, pornography, and/or sex...
by stimothybrown | Sep 30, 2019 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Disclosure! “To tell, or not to tell. That is the question” ~ Shakespeare (but not really) Many people, as it pertains to disclosure have often questioned “Should I tell my partner any (all) of my past indiscretions?” People have even gone so far as to ask “What if...
by stimothybrown | Sep 16, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Is he ready? Let’s take a look at it and see. When we experience Betrayal Trauma, oftentimes it becomes a real battle to get our addicted Partner to come to terms with their addiction. They really would rather you just leave them alone. But you can’t and you’re not...
by stimothybrown | Sep 16, 2019 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
What does that even mean anyway? I’m not talking about Webster’s Dictionary definition of it, which by the way is feeling sorrow, regret, or penitence; mournful, sad; inspiring sorrow, pity, scorn, or ridicule, pitiful. The first definition surrounds a state of...
by stimothybrown | Sep 16, 2019 | Men's Corner, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
OK, so I don’t watch the ABC reality television program The Bachelor or The Bachelorette because quite frankly, in my view, it is a mockery of relationships and marriage. But I did get sucked into going back and watching Season 15 of the Bachelorette for reasons I...
by stimothybrown | Aug 31, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
What are the Indicators of Success? What are the indicators of achievement? Those are some very interesting questions. Almost unequivocally, every single person who is addicted, and also those who suffer from betrayal trauma, has been wounded. And most were wounded...
by Savvy Esposito | Aug 21, 2019 | Becoming a Coach & Building Your Practice, Building Your Recovery Lifestyle, Careers
So for those who’ve followed us, you know we’ve gone through so many changes and transformations since 2017. Part of that is the natural evolution of a business, and other changes are from the insane knowledge I’ve learned from some AMAZING programs!...
by stimothybrown | Aug 17, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
I remember a comedian some years ago, whose name I won’t mention because he was just such a vile, foul mouthed, human being. I recall thinking everything he said was hysterical at the time, but as I’ve aged, I don’t necessarily find most of his material all that funny...
by stimothybrown | Aug 12, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
That seems to be the compelling questions over Masturbation. Is there such a thing? There is a whole lot of debate surrounding this very subject. So, dig in, take a look, and add clarity so that you can make an informed decision, and decide for yourself. A Necessary...
by stimothybrown | Aug 3, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
NATURAL CONSEQUENCES Recently I was reminded of “indirect consequences”. For almost everything in life, we have “natural consequences” to bear for our mindlessness. I have written about these before. Forget your jacket, you’re cold. Forget your...
by wraemsanders | Aug 3, 2019 | Careers, Mental Health & Psychology
According to Merriam Webster’s Dictionary, the definition of perfection is as follows: the quality or state of being perfect, such as a: freedom from fault or defect, flawlessness b: maturity c: the quality or state of being saintly 2. an exemplification of...
by stimothybrown | Aug 3, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
What I am about to tell you is no laughing matter. I’m quite certain opinions will vary and be as diverse as justice is disproportionately served. I want to share with you Bryan’s Story because it demonstrates (how poignant with emphasis on “demon”): The...
by Savvy Esposito | Aug 3, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Savannah and I began talking about how horrible it is to read and hear stories about those trying to get help, only to be hurt by the professional they sought help from. We both realized it was something that needed to be addressed. So, we decided to work together and...
by wraemsanders | Jul 31, 2019 | Family & Parenting
Starting The Process Mental health can be very difficult to talk about. In some families, it may not be. It may be a very open topic due to several members having diagnoses, working in the mental health community, or both. My house has a combination- I’ve spent...
by stimothybrown | Jul 29, 2019 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
If I had a nickel for every time I’ve (we’ve) witnessed a Betrayed Partner ask this question, I could be trotting the globe in a state of blissful retirement right about now. WHY DO THEY ASK? When a Betrayed Partner becomes so distraught over their betrayal, their...
by stimothybrown | Jul 29, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
Once again, what started out as a simple question has evolved into a full blown discussion. I was working with a young sex addict; a young adult teenage woman. You do the math (that means she had to be between 18 – 19 years old). Yes, just as much as there is no...
by wraemsanders | Jul 17, 2019 | Family & Parenting
Kids need a lot from us as they grow. They don’t always realize it, but we do. We see it in their faces when they have had a bad day and need a hug. Their eyes show what they don’t say. When our child falls and skins a knee, they might want to act tough but yet, the...
by Savvy Esposito | Jul 15, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
When you are recovering from porn addiction and betrayal trauma, the importance of getting expert help cannot be understated. Making your priority number one is the way to overcome your addiction and trauma and reconstruct your new relationship. One of the things that...
by stimothybrown | Jul 15, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Because of the very nature of what I do, I often have the time, opportunity, and privilege to work with some of the most remarkable women in the world; notwithstanding my wonderful colleagues that I routinely work very closely with (don’t let that go to your head). I...
by stimothybrown | Jul 15, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Writer’s NOTE: Updated for 2020 to reflect changes in Programming at The Modern Mr. & Mrs., LLC. Gaslighting! What is it? Well, it’s not lighting gas for a stove, a fireplace, or a grill if that’s what you’re thinking. If you go look it up on the internet,...
by wraemsanders | Jul 3, 2019 | Family & Parenting
Our children watch and learn a lot from us. They watch us even when we don’t realize it. When we don’t handle our anger well, they see it. When we express anxiety over our weight, they pick up on that. They also see how we treat others. If they watch their...
by wraemsanders | Jul 3, 2019 | Family & Parenting
As parents, it’s hard to watch our kids make mistakes. I’ve watched my kids make plenty. One hates homework and often forgets to hand it in, even after my many reminders. I remind him every single morning before he leaves the house about it. I even tried...
by wraemsanders | Jul 1, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex & Relationships
Everyone deserves love- to find someone to love and to be loved. For some of us, this can be a difficult concept. There are people who are out there with intentions to hurt us because they are hurting themselves. They want to destroy others and don’t care about...
by chloesutherland2000 | Jul 1, 2019 | Sex & Relationships
“Until rape is taken seriously… No movement is going to fix it anyway.” – Lindsay Lace Interview with a Model (Part 1) Interview By: Chloe Sutherland Interview Subject: Lindsay Lace (name may be changed to protect subject) Age: 19 Profession:...
by Savvy Esposito | Jun 27, 2019 | Sex & Relationships, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Coaching 101: In the future, if there are issues that you and your partner need to discuss, write them all down. When both of you are in a good mood, pull out your lists, share them and pick one topic to talk about. By doing this, both of you can see what you each...
by wraemsanders | Jun 22, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology
Our doctors are incredibly busy. They usually have a long list of patients to see each day with limited time to see them. There are also orders to put in, emails and phone calls to return, and don’t forget lunch. Doctors have to eat, too. It’s not that we...
by stimothybrown | Jun 22, 2019 | Mental Health & Psychology, Sex Addiction & Betrayal Trauma
Honestly, the whole premise that becomes the butt of so many jokes “it doesn’t take a brain scientist”, isn’t exactly true. Unless you are one, you– like myself– fit into this category of “Dummies.” When it comes to...
