Relationship & Recovery Coaches at The Modern Mr. and Mrs. LLC
Savannah Esposito, B.A. Forensic Psychology
CEO | Relationship & Recovery Coach
When I was younger I loved understanding people’s behaviors, their motives, why they do what they do. I quickly became the “go-to” friend for relationships, so it wasn’t a stretch when she went off and got her bachelors in forensic psychology at John Jay College of Criminal Justice.
Through my vast experience, natural skill, and knowledge I knew I had a calling to help people. I knew that my dedication, experience, and education allowed me to help others in a unique way.
I work with those struggling from SSA™ and betrayal trauma because of my passion, education, and also because my husband and I lived through it and made it to the other side, when not many truly make it to The Recovery Lifestyle.
I’ve seen and experienced the devastation from deception, betrayal, lack of communication, and lack of intimacy. Now, I uses those techniques, skills, and creative exercises I used to save my own marriage with other couples.
I know what it takes to save a marriage on the rocks. I took all my experiences, knowledge of addiction, psychology, and neuroscience, and applied it to my own relationship when I discovered my husband’s porn addiction. My husband is over 4 years clean, and we’ve reconstructed a new marriage. We made it, and so can you!
Chloe Sutherland, A.S. Physiology
Sex & Recovery Coach
My interest in sex started when I was 15 or 16, but who’s doesn’t? The difference I noticed for me verse other people was I didn’t just want to know ‘how to do it’, I wanted to know everything about it. The anthropology of sex, of fetishes, of sexual education and sexual intimacy.
I have quested to go everywhere and gain the knowledge of the primal evolution of sex. I’ve been behind the scenes of marketing and directly in front lines helping with people who struggle with sexual intimacy and betrayal trauma. Sex never came with a manual. It was supposed to be the most natural act on earth.
Many things can get in the way of this. Addiction to masturbation, sex or porn is just having sex with yourself. It negates the point of intimately connecting to a person. I’ll be frank, good sex isn’t about frequency… It’s about the freedom. Can you be yourself? Do you accept them? I feel like relationships ask something specific of each individual couple. Every part of your past helps to mold the footprints you walk through foreplay to becoming truly connected.
Naked isn’t just being undressed. Intimacy isn’t just about sex. Many people get lost in complacency in their relationships. Trust, honesty and communication helps make commitment work. If nobody has integrity, then it’s hard to have accountability. Showing these traits to your partner is having respect for them. If you have these principles and your partner doesn’t – it’s hard to have great sex. If you have certain principles and your partner doesn’t, it’s hard to have a relationship.
While you can have sex without a relationship, you can’t really have a relationship without sex. I am interested in helping couples regain the “lost footing” in their challenges with this particular cornerstone because I feel that there is no greater frontier than making marriage work.
I’ve been a recovered SSA™ for over 6 years, and now I work with other SSA’s™ (Sexual Stimulation Addiction – pornography, masturbation and sex addiction) to help them overcome their struggles with this addiction and achieve The Recovery Lifestyle.