Why The 12 Steps Suck for Relational Recovery
We admitted we were powerless over sexaholism – that our lives had become unmanageable. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. Made a...
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The 14 Most Romantic & Intimate Movies of All Time
With 2020 well under way, I felt this would be a great time to provide for you some valuable lessons in what "genuine intimacy" really looks like. So without further ado, with Valentine's Day just a month away, here is the list. WARNING Some of these movies contain...
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Why White Knuckling Hurts More Than Just Staying an SSA & What You Should Do Instead
Lots of people have heard the term "White Knuckling," but do you know what it truly means? The definition is: someone who is avoiding recovery by doing minimal efforts to appear to others that they are achieving recovery, all the while, not truly learning and/or...
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The Year of 2019: Change
I cannot believe we are at the end of 2019. I am honestly SO happy to have made it through this year. It's been a very big, challening, and at times painful year. In this post I am going to be addressing me and my husband's journey in recovery, the goals we set, what...
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We’re Getting Married: Premarital Counciling
Actually, “counciling” isn’t even a word. But I utilize it to illustrate a point. I view much of what so-called premarital counseling is as nothing more than various miscellaneous and sundry council members with words of advice often fraught with (mis)information with...
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To the SSA: The Hard Pill to Swallow
I had been eyeing this car for a very long time. It solidified all of my hopes, dreams, and goals that truly represented and exemplified what I thought was pure success. It was coveted by my friends, colleagues, and acquaintances alike. It was, “Man, you are so damned...
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My Husband Quit His Job for His Recovery
Unpopular opinion - sometimes the only way to recover is to do something drastic. This does not necessarily mean that it's the only thing to do, or that you should do something different for the sake of doing different. Sometimes recovering from SSA (Sexual...
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My Husband Was a Voyeur
He was tired. My husband told me he was Tired. It was starting to get old though. You know that sort of tired where he won't touch you for days and you start to question yourself as a woman? You know, where you are going crazy because the work stress passes, and the...
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Know Your Worth as The Betrayed
Being able to stand up for yourself is huge when you've constantly been beaten down by lines like, "Its just porn, get over it." "I'm not cheating, fuck every guy needs release." "Maybe if you put out more, I wouldn't need porn." Those are classic lines from addicts...
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Recovery from SSA & BT: Relationship Reconstruction 101
At The Mod, we have couples coming from all over the place seeking help regarding their partner's SSA (Sexual Stimulation Addiction - Masturbation, Pornography, and/or Sex addiction) and their own Betrayal Trauma. Most couples make the mistake of thinking relationship...
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