How To Stay Together After Partner Has Broken Trust?
From a betrayed partner with a SSA + IA partner Q: Once trust has been broken so completely, how is it possible to stay together? Savvy Answers: If you are in the beginning stages of recovery (0-6 months post discovery) and you have not gotten any professional help,...
Husband’s Fine With Me Having Cyber Sex With Other Men
From a Betrayed partner with an SSA spouse: Q: My husband of 12 years whom is addicted to Porn told me today that he would be fine (no issues) if I were to talk online to guys, have cyber sex you name it. As long as we don’t ever meet up in person. How am I supposed...
How To Figure Out What Your Partner Likes Sexually
From a person not struggling with addiction, infidelity or betrayal in their relationship: Q: How can you figure out where your partner enjoys being touched, kissed, and how they like to be touched and kissed? The Savvy Answer: There are a couple of ways to...
How To Be A Mindful Partner
From a person not struggling with addiction, infidelity or betrayal in their relationship: Q: What should a partner be mindful of when addressing things with their partner (whether it's day to day aspects or negotiating or tough topics)? The Savvy Answer: Being a...
Understanding The Neuroscience of Porn Addiction
From a Betrayed partner with an SSA spouse: Q: As an LCPC I am very familiar with addiction. I have always seen a difference between 'substance use addiction' and others (gambling, video games sex porn). The biggest struggle I find I have is that I understand how...
4 Strategies To Enhance Your Connection With Your Partner
Q: How can couples make the best of their time together so that they enhance their connection each and every day? **This was a question submitted from someone who is not struggling with addiction, infidelity, or betrayal, and so my response is geared towards healthy...
How To Know You’re Experiencing Betrayal Trauma vs. Codependency
Unfortunately too many betrayed partners get slapped with the label "codependent" or "co-addict" and it's just not true (in most cases). Patrick Carnes developed the codependency model where it's presumed that the partner of the addict knew about the addiction and...
6 Strategies To Prevent Destructive Fights In Your Relationship
Arguments are part of any healthy relationship. They are unavoidable, and can actually be a positive aspect of your relationship. Arguments show that you care, are passionate, and are not scared to speak your point of view. But, not all arguments are equal. Some...
7 Recovery Paths For Betrayal Trauma & Sexual Addicts
"How long does recovery take and what are my long-term options?" That is the number one question I get asked from prospective clients going through betrayal trauma and sexual addiction. Below, I'm going to breakdown the various recovery paths and timelines so that you...
Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma: A Step by Step Guide To Recovery
When people suffer from porn addiction and betrayal trauma, their odds of getting help and recovering are oftentimes low because porn addiction and betrayal trauma are not well understood by traditional therapists, and the debate is still out on whether or not porn...
